Wouldn’t it be nice to get everything you want in life? Well, it’s possible! You just need to know how to ask. So many of my clients come to me with questions. They want to know why they can’t find a man who loves them, or a career that makes them a nice income that they enjoy, or time to do the things they want to do. They struggle with being tired and suffer from low energy. They WANT more out of their lives, but they just don’t know how to do it.
One of the three areas I focus on when working with my clients is language. I talk about the importance of the words we say and the thoughts we think being responsible for everything that shows up in our lives…everything! But, it’s not just in the words we say; it’s the WAY we say them as well. Asking questions is one of the most POWERFUL ways we attract what we have into our lives. Therefore, it is vitally important that we are asking ourselves the RIGHT questions.
Let me explain a little further. If you want to lose weight, but you ask yourself “Why can’t I lose weight?” you will not lose weight. The emphasis is on “can’t lose weight.” All your energy is focused on the frustration and the defeat. You end up feeling bad about yourself, and you doubt yourself. Everything in that question is laced with negative energy. You can’t move in a positive direction in that state using words like that.
Turn Your “Worry” into “Wonder”
I could remove any word from the dictionary and our language, the first word I would remove is “worry.” It is such a wasted emotion. So many people spend so much of their time worrying! Think about all the things you worry about, then look back to see how many of those things actually came true. This is a topic I talk about a lot because it’s worth repeating over and over again. To help you get started, I’ve created a list of ten powerful questions designed to create triggers when you say the word “worry.”
Here is a list of better questions to be asking:
Use these questions:
I wonder, how it would feel to (fill in the blank)?
I wonder, what would it take to (fill in the blank)?
- Have a job I really loved.
- Be in a loving, romantic relationship with an amazing, trustworthy partner.
- Be fit and healthy.
- Wake up early and feel excited about the day ahead.
- Have so much money that I never have to think about what I spend.
- Live in a world where I’m loved and accepted just as I am.
- Work when I want to work and play when I want to play.
- Know that I’m OK just the way I am and feel really good about that.
- Feel happy every single day.
- Get along better with my family (boss, partner, kids, etc.)
Replace “I Am/I Was” with “The Person I Used to Be”
Did you know that “I AM” means God? God said to Moses when he asked him his name “I am that I am.” God, or whatever you believe, is in all of us. There is no separation. We are all connected. When we use “I am” we are stating something as in past, present, future. When we say “I was” we are definitely living in our past, but it still connects us to now. What does all this mean? It means that if we want to change our current circumstances, we need to change our connection and association to events from our past and our current “reality.” How can we do that? Simply by changing statements and questions as follows:
From: Why am I so undesirable?
To: The person I used to be was undesirable, but why am I now so desirable?
From: Why was I so stupid?
To: The person I used to be would call me stupid, but why is it so easy to see how smart I am now?
- Write down ten defeating questions you say to yourself or others.
- Then, REWRITE them using this formula.
You will begin to pick up the pattern you’re stuck in, and start speaking about yourself in a much kinder, more loving manner.
Create Questions That Put Your Subconscious to Work FOR You
When I read Noah St. John’s book “Afformations” my eyes were opened up to the power of asking “WHY” questions instead of just stating affirmations. After I read that book, I started saying to myself “Why does this day keep getting better and better?” If you’ve done my 30 DAY CHALLENGE ON HOW TO HAVE A BETTER TODAY, that is Day 1’s Challenge. That is such a powerful question with so many legs to it. I’ll change it up and replace “day” with “week” or “month” or “YEAR!” It’s so much fun to say “Why does this year keep getting better and better?” When we ask that question, our subconscious starts searching all the files, stored memories and experiences, and goes out of its way to MAKE SURE your day, week, month, or year keep getting better and better.
Your assignment is to come up with a DAILY MANTRA question like this one for you. Feel free to use this one, because it’s so effective and EASY TO REMEMBER. But, here are some other suggestions:
- Time Challenged: Why do I have so much time?
- Stressed Out: Why does my life move with such ease and flow?
- Lack of Focus: Is what I’m doing right now moving my life forward?
- Money Mindset: Why is it so easy for me to make money?
- Low Self-Esteem: Why am I so confident and capable?
It may seem crazy, but this stuff works! By creating more awareness about the way you speak and ask questions, and by being INTENTIONAL with the questions you ask and the words you choose, you can easily shift what occurs in your life. The difference between someone who says “Why can’t anything ever go right for me?” versus “Why are things always working out for me?” is evident by what’s happening in their lives. So, what’s showing up for you?
Breaking old paradigms and programming that’s been embedded in us for many, many years doesn’t happen overnight, but it does happen faster than you think. Step one is creating the awareness and step two is reframing the questions. Step three is what shows up. Start with these three tips, have fun with it (because life is supposed to be fun), and be easy on yourself when you first start doing this. It’s a new habit you’re creating, and it takes time. And here’s the best part…you’ll gain greater self-awareness. That is always a good thing!
LOVE IT!: WHY DO I GET EVERYTHING I WANT?
THANK IT!: WHY DOES MY LIST OF THINGS TO BE GRATEFUL FOR KEEP GROWING?
BRING IT!: HOW CAN LIFE POSSIBLY BE THIS GOOD!?!
Quote: “The art and science of asking questions is the source of all knowledge.” – Thomas Berger