How to Give Yourself Permission to be Happy

April 18, 2018 // by Diane Forster

I was interviewing Forbes Riley for the World Manifestation Summit on her definition of manifest and how the power of manifestation has contributed to Forbes’ massive success. She told me that the reason for her success is by going after whatever she wanted and never asking anybody for permission to do anything. Now, that is powerful. I know there have been times in my life where I felt like I needed permission to do something that I thought would make me happy. Fortunately, those days are long behind me.

What about you? Do you seek other people’s approval and blessing before you make any decisions? Now, I’m not talking about ‘discussing’ things with your spouse or partner. I’m talking about you wanting to say, “yes” to something, but someone else tells you, “no.” So, you don’t do something based on what someone else’s opinion is, which leaves you feeling bad.

No one is going to give you permission to live your life!

You need to grant it to yourself! Here are three reasons why:

No one else is walking in your footsteps

Whatever the decision is…to marry someone, to change jobs, to have children, to leave a relationship, to go back to school, to convert religions, to quit something…YOU are the one that decides. This is YOUR life! Therefore, the opinions of others come from their perspective, not yours. It’s not their fault…they only know what they know. They can’t truly know what will make YOU happy.

The only opinion I ever listen to is from someone who has done exactly what I want to do and has paved the way and learned the lessons. As Greg Reid has stated, “Successful people seek counsel, where the failures listen to opinion.” If someone hasn’t done what you want to do, then their opinion is based on ignorance. Why would you need to seek their permission or approval to do something they haven’t done?

Don’t put yourself in a position to say ”I should have”

“Shoulda, coulda, woulda” is probably one of the worst expressions ever uttered. Nobody ever wants to feel like that! Regrets that leave you feeling like this and saying those words are the result of you doing something to please someone else instead of doing what was right for you. In my book, “I Have Today: Find Your Passion, Purpose & Smile…Finally!” I have a chapter on “Being Selfish in a Really Good Way.” Being selfish is good! What’s bad is doing, or NOT doing, something you really wanted that you may regret later.

It helps to build your confidence

Strong decision-making skills will bring you more of what you want in life much quicker than anything else! But, it takes confidence to be decisive. When you procrastinate or go back and forth on decisions, it’s a sign of low self-confidence. So many people are afraid to make a “mistake.” Here’s the reality…mistakes will happen! Nothing and no one is perfect! We are not supposed to be! The only way to learn is to try and do. The more you try and do, the more you learn, then the better your decision-making skills become, which leads to greater levels of self-confidence! Soon, you won’t even consider asking another person for permission to do anything. You’ll get so good at it!

Give yourself permission to live your life on your terms. Only you know what makes you happy. Go for it…permission granted!

Affirmation Statements:

LOVE IT!: I LOVE BEING IN CHARGE OF MY LIFE!

THANK IT!: I AM SO GRATEFUL FOR MY DECISION-MAKING ABILITIES!

BRING IT!: I GRANT MYSELF PERMISSION TO DO WHATEVER I FEEL CALLED TO DO!

With Love,

Diane

Quote: “Give yourself permission to live a big life. Step into who you are meant to be. Stop playing small. You’re meant for great things.” – Unknown

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You Are Not Alone…Ever! How to tap into your intuition.

March 20, 2018 // by Diane Forster

How To Tap Into Your Intuition

Do you ever get the feeling that someone is watching you? Or, you glimpse something out of the corner of your eye and turn suddenly, but realize there’s nothing there? Or, is there? Hmmm. I’ve got news for you…there is.

You’ve heard it before…we’re all energy. We’re all part of the collective consciousness that is universal energy, and there is no separation. There is only oneness. So, if you believe that, which I wholeheartedly do, then we are all connected. The physical and the non-physical are inextricably intertwined together, leaving no one or nothing out of the equation.

My favorite line from my favorite childhood cartoon, “Underdog,” was – “There’s no need to fear! Underdog is here!” Well, there truly is NOTHING to fear! In fact, life becomes much more fun when you understand that the only universal condition is love! What that means is you are SURROUNDED and ENVELOPED in love…ALWAYS! Doesn’t that feel good?

Now that you know that you are not alone, or you’re reminded of this love, here are three ways to fully embrace this in your everyday, human experience:

Start testing your sixth sense

We are all born with the same level of intuition…the ability to acquire knowledge without proof or understanding how the knowledge was acquired. Do you ever answer the question, “how do you know that?” with “I don’t know, I just know.” Well, you do! That’s you trusting your intuition because the collective consciousness is communicating with you and your inner being.

So, start dialing that up, baby! You can, and should, tune into your intuition for every decision you need to make. By the way, the very first thought you get IS the right answer. Not sure about that job, don’t take it. Get a bad feeling about that guy, don’t date him. Have an instant connection with someone, explore it and deepen the relationship. Then, watch how much easier your life runs! Ease up on the logic, and tune in to your posse’s guidance! You’re getting your answers ALL DAY LONG!

Start talking to your deceased relatives and friends

My mother passed away in 1996. She’s been “gone” a long time physically. But, I still have a relationship with her and call upon her wisdom and guidance constantly. When I tell you she shows up, that’s an understatement! She’s creative. She goes out of her way to communicate with me and give me answers. It’s gotten to the point that I just laugh now. I ask her fun questions, like, “So, how are you going to show up next time, Mom?” I am always amazed at the way she chooses to get me messages…people, songs, books, pictures, and (now) she’s even coming through on videos. She’s got such a funny sense of humor!

My advice is to start talking to your deceased loved ones because they are trying so hard to come through with messages of love and support. As stated above, the only universal emotion is love. Therefore, it does not matter who they were or how they behaved when they were alive, they are purely positive, energetic love now. They’ve returned to the same energy they were before they came here. (I know you’re asking me right now, “how do you know that?” Of course, my answer is, “I don’t know, I just know.”)

Start asking every day, “Show me the quickest, most fun way to all I want with harm to no one and nothing”

This will blow your mind! The universe cannot help but deliver abundance to you! Look at all the abundance it delivers everywhere…millions of stars, raindrops, grains of sand, blades of grass, galaxies!

But, here are two important keys:

Make sure you are clear about what you want. Be as specific as you can be. The universe doesn’t understand the abstract. Don’t just say, “I want to be happy.” Instead, say, “I am now happy that I work in a field that I love, that brings me joy and satisfaction, using my unique skills and gifts, and pays me handsomely.” See the difference?
Make sure you’re READY if it’s what you really want! You’ll get it faster than you think…trust me! So, be sure you’re ready to embrace what’s coming.

The caveat “with harm to no one and nothing” is important. It’s like a pinch for good measure…it can’t hurt to add that.

Don’t feel fearful of “ghosts” or something bad happening. Embrace God, your angels, guides, saints, higher power, oneness, collective consciousness – and feel the power of the LOVE pouring all over you! And, one final note, remember to feel blessed and lucky that you are never alone. You are surrounded by so much love and abundance. It feels like a warm blanket. Mmmm.

Affirmation Statements:

LOVE IT!: I LOVE FEELING THE PRESENCE OF SO MUCH LOVE AND SUPPORT!

THANK IT!: I AM GRATEFUL FOR ALL MY ANGELS AND GUIDES ALONG THIS JOURNEY!

BRING IT!: I FEEL EMPOWERED KNOWING THAT I’M NEVER TRULY ALONE!

With Love,

Diane

Quote: “If you knew who walked beside you at all times, on the path that you have chosen, you could never experience fear or doubt again.” – Wayne Dyer

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How to Keep Faith When What You Want Isn’t Coming

January 23, 2018 // by Diane Forster

You can’t give up on a dream once you’ve dreamed it. Once you want something, you know too much. Life events caused you to want it, so now you can’t go back and wish you didn’t. Your soulmate, a new job, a new career, children, more money, a bigger home, more financial freedom, to retire, to live bigger, fame, fortune, to positively impact the lives of millions. Whatever you want, no matter how big or small, once you have a desire, it’s yours to have. Sometimes the waiting period can be unbearable! Especially if you been asking, and asking and asking, but it’s still not coming. How long are you supposed to keep faith?!

The answer: Indefinitely. And here are three reasons why:

The Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction is instantaneous. The moment you ask for something, it is already done. The next step is to allow the universe to go to work on your behalf to put together all the cooperative pieces to BRING IT TO YOU. However, since the Law of Attraction is so precise and so immediate (like gravity… if you drop a pencil from your hand, in a second it will be on the floor) if you’re worried about it or have any negative thoughts about it, it can’t come to you. That doesn’t mean it never will. It just means you need to ADJUST YOUR THINKING about what you want from feeling fear and doubt to feeling excitement and anticipation.

Feeling Gratitude Before It Happens

The reason why gratitude is so important is because it puts you in a state of appreciation. I got the chance to meet Lynne Twist, author of “The Soul of Money” at an event last year, and one of the things she said that has stayed with me is, “what we appreciate appreciates.” What that means for you is when you focus on what you have in gratitude and appreciation, you will get more. If you don’t NEED the thing you want to come to you to feel “better,” it will flow to you so quickly!

Stop Asking Over and Over Again

You only need to ask for something ONCE. That’s right… one time. God, the universe, spirit, whatever you believe, hears you loudly and clearly the very first time. Once is enough. When you ask over and over again, you’re basically saying that you don’t have faith that you can have it, or belief that you deserve it. Your feelings of unworthiness say to the universe, “I’m not ready.”

This is a message that I need to be reminded of regularly as well. Let’s face it, we all need a reminder now and then. Let this blog be a constant reminder to you to let go and let flow, to ask and trust that it is given, and to live your life with as much gratitude and appreciation as you possibly can. Then, watch how powerfully you manifest everything you want into your life! How fun!

Affirmation Statements:

LOVE IT!: I LOVE HOW POWERFUL I AM AND HOW GIVING THE UNIVERSE IS!

THANK IT!: I AM SO GRATEFUL FOR EVERYTHING I HAVE AND ALL THAT IS TO COME!

BRING IT!: I BELIEVE IN MY WORTHINESS AND INTEND TO HAVE A LIFE FILLED WITH EVERYTHING I WANT!

Quote: Every single second is an opportunity to change your life, because in any moment you can change the way you feel. – Rhonda Byrne

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3 Reasons to Forgive Your Parents

January 15, 2018 // by Diane Forster

Do you need to forgive? Let’s face it… people can drive us crazy. Especially our parents. When you’re young, you look up to your mom and dad like they are your heroes. However, from the time you enter the “socialization” years (begins around puberty/tween years) throughout the rest of your adult life, you see your parents through different eyes. Maybe it is time to forgive.

When it first begins happening, you’re too young to understand it. You just think that they don’t know anything and they are not capable of understanding you. Once you reach your “professional” years, you begin to understand that they are “people” too. And like all people, they are human and make mistakes.

I remember the moment it happened for me. I was in college and was filled with an overwhelming feeling of guilt about the way I had treated my parents in the past. Once I was away and on my own, I began to realize and truly appreciate all that they had done for me, had sacrificed for me, and how much they loved me. So, I forgave them. Then, I forgave myself.

Have you? Have you forgiven your parents for all the things they may have done to you? Or didn’t do for you? Their bad moods, their lack of patience, some unkind words, maybe even a slap or two? If not, here are three reasons why maybe it’s time you did.

Reason 1: They Were (and Still Are) Doing the Best They Can

This is true for EVERYONE, even our parents. They are a product of their own upbringing, their own programming, their own limiting beliefs, fears, doubts and insecurities. Remember, they are people, too.

In my book, “I HAVE TODAY: Find Your Passion, Purpose and Smile…Finally” I teach a process called EEDs (Emotional Energy Diffusers). The third step is to “Praise.” Briefly, that means to look at the person in front of you and understand that they are doing the best they can in that moment. That’s all they’ve got. The 3-Step Process gives you the chance to show compassion and understanding towards a person who needs it even though their outward behavior may be exhibiting something negative, like anger or frustration.

So, forgiveness of your parents for the short-comings and short-sidedness is important. Deep down, they don’t mean it. They REALLY are doing the best they can in that moment.

Reason 2: They Beat Themselves Up Enough… You Don’t Need to Keep Doing It!

If you are a parent, then you now KNOW what it’s like for your parents! Parenting is not easy. You do ten things right and ten things wrong all day long! You take each day as it comes. We all have moments when we’ve snapped. For whatever the reason… exhaustion, stress, pressure, frustration… it happens to all of us. Take a minute to recall a time or two when this has happened to you as a parent. Didn’t you beat yourself up mercilessly? Well, our parents are the same way!

Here’s an opportunity to remember that about them. We are programmed with so much guilt! So, don’t add further shame to the mix by holding on to something that happened in the past that doesn’t even matter anymore. Forgiveness is the key to letting that go.

Reason 3: You Continue to Hurt YOURSELF by Not Letting Go…Forgive

Buddha said, “Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Whatever happened, it’s over! It’s in the past. Let it go. Forgive and move on! The person who suffers the most by not forgiving is the person who can’t forgive. Life is too short to hold on to pain from the past. It’s unhealthy, and it blocks your full potential for happiness to come into your life. Now, isn’t THAT reason enough?

Forgive your parents. Love them for the people they are, in all their humanness.

Affirmation Statements:

LOVE IT!: I LOVE MY PARENTS FOR THE PEOPLE THEY ARE.

THANK IT!: I AM GRATEFUL FOR ALL THE LESSONS I LEARNED FROM MY PARENTS.

BRING IT!: I AM A BETTER PARENT BECAUSE OF MY PARENTS.

Quote: “Children begin by loving their parents; as they grow older they judge them; sometimes they forgive them.” – Oscar Wilde

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3 Reasons You Should Pray Every Night

December 11, 2017 // by Diane Forster

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I did a recent poll about the power of prayer and what the benefits are for you. The response was overwhelming, and I’ll share some of the quotes throughout this blog. The underlying message from everyone who responded is they feel peace of mind, supported and heard. They do not feel alone. These are persuasive reasons that you should pray every night.

“Prayer quiets and centers my mind and soul which allows the solutions to come to me.” – Barbara A.

Here are three reasons why it’s important to pray before your head hits the pillow:

Reason 1: Prayer gives you the opportunity to reflect on your day and express gratitude and appreciation for your life.

Bedtime is the perfect time of day to look back on your day and count your blessings. By praying at bedtime allows you to stop and think about all the things that happened to you during the day, and take those moments to feel the gratitude and appreciation for all the little moments. Those are the moments where your joy can be found.

“I pray and it absolutely helps! The benefits are too many to list, but among them are peace in my heart, comfort when I need it, direction when I ask for it, clarity, hope, perspective, patience, increased faith, and most important for me, drawing closer to the Lord. I pray all the time… it’s more of an ongoing conversation than a structured and formal prayer.” – Vivienne W.

Reason 2: Prayer gives you the chance to focus on what matters most to you.

With the busy life you lead, you can get caught up in the stress and anxiety throughout the day. By pausing and giving yourself a chance to pause and breathe, you get the opportunity to look at what is and isn’t that important to you. Let go of anything that caused you to get upset. Look for the gift in that experience, because there IS one there. Ask for guidance and understanding and trust that the answers will come.

“Praying resets my heart and mind on the things of utmost importance. It keeps me humble, it strengthens me, it blesses me.” – Emily S.

Reason 3: Prayer keeps you connected to your source.

You are not alone, but sometimes it can feel that way. By praying every night, it gives you that chance to feel loved and supported every single day. That is something we all need to feel on a daily basis. When you take the time to pray at night, you’re setting yourself up for a good night’s rest. You can ask for answers in your dreams and then look for them! Ask for your answers because they always come… always!

“I pray quite often. When I ask for help, guidance, God to watch over me or to keep a strong hand on my shoulder. I know I’ve been heard. My prayers are answered in different ways and I see signs all over, showing me that I was listened to. It’s hard to explain, but feelings are strong and I’m blessed from experiences and knowing there is a higher power watching over me. I feel at ease after I say a prayer.” – Tamara T.

One last BONUS TIP to help your dreams come true faster: Pray aloud, then write down a few words about what you’re praying for each night and leave it visible next to your bed or in your room somewhere. A fun, creative way to do this is to use a tabletop chalk board. Then, every night, you can change it to whatever you want it to say! The more you do this, the quicker your answers come!

LOVE IT!: I LOVE HOW COMFORTED I FEEL WHEN I PRAY!

THANK IT!: I AM GRATEFUL WHEN MY PRAYERS ARE ANSWERED!

BRING IT!: I FEEL SO LOVED AND SUPPORTED BY THE POWER OF PRAYERS

Quote: “True prayer is neither a mere mental exercise nor a vocal performance. It is far deeper than that – it is spiritual transaction with the Creator of Heaven and Earth.” – Charles Spurgeon

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3 Things You Need to Give Up to Be Happy

November 30, 2017 // by Diane Forster

Oftentimes, we believe we need to “add something” into our lives to be happy … more money, better job, a spouse, a new car, a baby. The truth is, by removing things, we create the space to find more happiness in the simple things. It’s in the simplicity that happiness finds its way into the cracks of ordinary moments that we tend to take for granted.|

Here are three things you need to eliminate from your life to feel more happiness each day.

The Need to Please Others

It’s not possible to please everyone all the time. It’s not even possible to please any one person most of the time. The level that someone may or may not feel pleased by someone or something is entirely up to that individual. You have nothing to do with it… sorry, it’s the truth. Therefore, doing things because we think it will please another is the wrong reason to be doing it. The only reason to do it is because YOU want to do it JUST FOR YOU! If you’re doing it to elicit a response, you can expect to be disappointed often, which won’t leave you feeling happy.

For you, you need to do things that make YOU happy and let go of how others feel about it. If it makes you happy, then the people in your life who truly love and care about you will be supportive of you. If they are not, well, there is a good chance you shouldn’t be spending time with them any longer anyway. Doing for others, whether it be something for them or you do because of what they may think, will leave you feeling sad and disappointed far too often.

Inflexibility

Stuff happens… constantly. Technology breaks. Kids get into trouble. You get a flat tire. People cancel plans on you. Schedules get moved around. Restaurants run out of your favorite meal. The one constant in life is change. If you’re too structured and rigid in the way you live and in your views, that is a guaranteed detractor of happiness. Let go and let flow. Being flexible allows you the opportunity to pivot and change direction, without it affecting your day in a negative way. By being more flexible and relaxed, you’ll start to notice some more of the magic that shows up in your life by all the “coincidences” that show up. For instance, if you weren’t stuck in traffic and late for your appointment, which set your day back a bit, you wouldn’t have run into that old friend you haven’t seen in years. Just trust…there are no accidents. Everything happens for a reason, even if you don’t know it in the moment. So, do your best to relax and be flexible.

Perfectionism

Nothing is ever really done, and there really is no such thing as perfection. What may look like perfection to one person looks like a disaster to someone else. Once the house is perfectly clean, all it takes is the kids to come home and one meal to be cooked in the kitchen, and in an instant, no more perfection. Have you ever noticed that the “To Do” list never gets done? You may be able to check off all the items in one given day. But, sure enough, there’s more “To Do” the next day. When you pause for a moment and realize this fact, you can stop and congratulate yourself for what you actually DID accomplish and spend less time beating yourself up for what didn’t get completed yet. It’s in those moments of choosing to feel the accomplishment where your bliss is. Release the attachment to be always “doing, doing, doing.”

These may seem simple, but it is in the simplicity of life where our joy resides. So, give it up and make yourself happier.

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LOVE IT!: I STRIVE TO PLEASE MYSELF AND BECAUSE OF THAT, I AM HAPPY.

THANK IT!: I AM SO GRATEFUL FOR MY FLEXIBILITY AND EASY MINDSET.

BRING IT!: I HAVE THE POWER TO FEEL MORE JOY AND HAPPINESS EVERY SINGLE DAY!

Quote: “Happiness is a choice, it’s not a condition. Choose your happiness above all else. The rest will fall into place. Those that fall away from your life need to. Those who stay deserve to.” – Diane Forster

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Learn How to Be the Biggest, Brightest Energy in the Room!!!

November 14, 2017 // by Diane Forster

This week, I’m going a bit “woo-woo!” Yes, that’s right, I’m getting deep into energy, the Law of Attraction, and just how POWERFUL we are! Are you ready for some fun?!? If you don’t know it yet, you’ll know it now, but we are WAY more than these physical bodies that we walk around in! I’m sure you’ve heard it before, but everything is energy. Everything. If you looked at a piece of glass or a piece of wood under a microscope, you could see the movement. Crazy creepy in a way, but so, so cool!

Here’s an exercise to show you how easy it is to do. Hold up both your hands in front of your face, palms up. Look at your non-dominant hand. (For me, that would be my right hand since I’m left-handed.) Then, stare at that hand, imagining it is growing, your fingers are stretching far, far up to the sky. Your hand and fingers keep getting longer and longer. Then, hold your two hands together lining up your fingers and LOOK AT HOW MUCH BIGGER YOUR non-dominant hand is! It’s so powerful! If we can expand the energy of our hand, then we can expand the energy of our entire being!

So, if we are all energy, which we are, how can we make this work FOR us in our lives? The answer is to BE THE BIGGEST ENERGY IN THE ROOM!

How do you do that? Let me explain three ways to make that happen:

Set the Intention Prior to Entering Anywhere

Just before I enter any room — whether it be a networking event, a party, a family gathering, some place where I want to be able to be seen and see who I need to see — I always set the intention right before I enter to “expand my energy.”

What that means is, specifically, I close my eyes, I imagine my heart is lit up like a big, bright light. It’s shining out through every pore, every cell of my body, then beyond the room I am in, beyond the building, beyond the town, beyond the city, the state, the country, the planet, and into the universe! That’s when I feel so EXPANSIVE! I feel “lit up” and like a bright force. By the way, we ALL should feel that way all the time. We have the power and capacity to do it, but most people don’t know that they are capable of that power.

Doing this practice has led more people to come and talk to me than any other practice. I’ve been asked, “Why are you always so easy to find in a crowd?” or “Why do you always get picked for things?” It’s because I do this practice. It’s not egotistical. It’s smart! Look, if I’m spending my free time going to a networking event, I want it to be worthwhile time! I want to make sure that I meet whomever I’m supposed to meet and support them in every way I possibly can.

Do an Expansive Practice During Your Morning Meditation

When you do your morning meditation, begin to incorporate an Energy Expansion practice into the meditation by imagining that the top of your scalp is opening up. Once it’s open, imagine a bright, beautiful light of liquid gold pouring down into your head and dripping all the way down your body, through every part. As it’s pouring down, imagine that bright, gold light shining bright, lighting up and expanding out like the brightness of the sun. Spend a few moments feeling and being brighter than the sun itself. Then, say a mantra “I am open and receptive to everything this powerful energy attracts to me.” You’ll become like a magnet for so many wonderful people and circumstances. So, pay attention to the signs. Some will be subtle and some will blow you away!

Put a Protective Barrier Around Yourself

This is one of the “Rainbow” Practices I developed and use in my life. I teach my clients to use as well. It’s not in the book, like the “Rainbow Breath Meditation” and the “Rainbow Ribbon of Healing” but I also have a practice called the “Rainbow Ball of Protection.” What it does is keep you safe from any negative outside energy. It doesn’t matter what’s going on outside of us, we must learn the art of not “letting it into our energy field” so it won’t affect us. That is what the “Rainbow Ball of Protection” provides for you.

Here is how it works: whenever you’re in a situation that has the potential to go awry or cause you any pain, discomfort, anxiety, etc., you simply close your eyes and imagine that a giant rainbow glass ribbon is wrapping around you into a ball. The ribbon looks like beautiful stained glass in a church — multi colored (like the rainbow). It’s sheer so you can see through it, but it’s hard glass so nothing can penetrate it. The metaphor is you can see what’s going on but it can’t touch you. That way, you’re able to be in toxic conversations and situations without letting it affect you in any way. This is so, so powerful!!!

Expand your energy…because it’s easy, it’s powerful, and it is so much FUN! Try these simple techniques and let me what manifests for you!

Affirmation Statements:

LOVE IT!: I LOVE HOW EASY IT IS TO EXPAND MY ENERGY!

THANK IT!: I AM SO GRATEFUL FOR MY MIND, MY ENERGY AND MY POWER!

BRING IT!: I AM A POWERFUL FORCE! WHEN I WALK IN THE ROOM, PEOPLE NOTICE!

Quote: “Certain people and their toxic energy can block you from expanding, elevating and vibrating higher. Detach and protect your energy.” – Unknown

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Plan for the Future, but Live for Today!

October 30, 2017 // by Diane Forster

Do you spend too much of your time thinking about the future? Do you worry about not having enough money, getting sick, something bad happening, losing your home, not finding true love? Are any of these fears, or something like them, part of your daily life? If so, it means you’re spending too much time living in your future and you need to live for TODAY.

Our company is called “I HAVE TODAY.” Our focus is on living intentionally, in the present moment, feeling more joy, love and fulfillment in every area of our lives, every day of our lives. While we focus our attention on present day living, we also need to plan for our future. How do we balance the two so that we are not spending too much time focused on the unknown of our future yet staying present and focused on living in our “now?”

Let’s highlight three important areas to balance: Health, Love, Money

Health

Don’t spend ANY time worrying about getting sick! Spend ALL your time THINKING healthy thoughts! With each new day, focus on good-feeling thoughts. Even if you are sick, focus ALL the energy on feeling well. Say things to yourself like, “I get healthier and stronger every single day,” “I am a powerful healer and I can make myself feel well,” and “my body is a well-oiled machine that knows how to repair itself!”

Of course, you need to make healthy lifestyle choices as well. Drink a lot of water TODAY, make healthier food choices TODAY, and move your body TODAY. By keeping the mindset focused on healthy, healing thoughts and taking daily action steps towards health, you are living in your present and preparing for the future.

Love

If you’re single and looking for love, the way to bring in your partner is to IMAGINE he/she is already in your life! Visualize that person with you all the time…in bed, in the shower, at the restaurant with you, in the grocery store with you, in the car with you…everywhere. Practice the art of “being” in a relationship BEFORE you’re in one! This practice will magnetically attract your partner right to you! By doing this in your “now” you are creating your future!!!

If you are in a relationship, the way to create long-lasting love is to focus on the FEELING of falling in love every day! Begin the practice of saying to yourself, “I Have Today to Fall in Love with (fill in the blank) ALL OVER AGAIN!” Then, spend a few minutes running down the list in your mind of all the things you love about that person. THAT is the way you keep your love alive and carry it into the future! If you don’t “feed” your love, it will starve and eventually die. Therefore, by putting in this practice each day in your “now” you’re setting up the future to be in love for a very long time.

Money

I wish I could wave a magic wand over the entire world and get rid of the fears and worries related to money. It’s just energy…like everything else…and if we focus our thoughts ONLY on the good, money flows to us so easily! The solution for keeping money flowing into your life today and into your future is GRATITUDE. That sounds so simple, but if you bless and feel grateful for every dollar you have and every dollar you spend, more dollars come into your life! Whether you’re paying your electric bill or buying a new outfit, BLESS that action! Allow yourself to pause for a moment and realize what that money is doing…it’s keeping the lights and heat on and it’s keeping you clothed and warm. If you don’t do this and you focus on “scarcity” thinking, you will keep the flow of money out of your life. Instead, by practicing gratitude for the money in your “now” you create a magnetic force for MORE money to flow into your future! It’s a beautiful thing!

Here’s the deal…NO excuses! You can talk yourself out of anything and you can argue for your limiting beliefs, but that does not serve you! No one is going to do this for you…YOU must do it! By implementing these three practices into your life NOW, you’re setting yourself up for a successful future. Isn’t it worth doing?

LOVE IT!: I AM EXACTLY WHERE I’M SUPPOSED TO BE AND I LOVE MY LIFE RIGHT NOW!

THANK IT!: I AM GRATEFUL FOR ALL THE GIFTS IN MY LIFE NOW AND IN MY FUTURE!

BRING IT!: I HAVE THE POWER TO BE HAPPY NOW AND ALWAYS!

Quote: “Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” – Mahatma Gandhi

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Attitude Determines the Outcome

October 24, 2017 // by Diane Forster

You’ve heard the expression, “Attitude is Everything.” How we feel about something, anything, comes from our attitude about it. If something, or several things, in your life, aren’t what you want them to be, then the question needs to be asked, “What is my attitude about that?”

I work with people of all ages and all stages of life. I hear from my young clients things like, “I can’t meet a girl. I don’t know how to talk to them. I’m not good at it.” With an attitude like that, of course you’re not good at it! How can you meet anyone you’d be potentially interested in getting to know better if that is the energy and the attitude you have? It can’t happen.

When it comes to money, is your attitude that of “I never have enough money” or “money is hard to make?” If it is, you are blocking the abundance of money available out there, and there is plenty, to come to you! Everything is energy, even money. So, money can feel that. Yes, this may sound a little “woo woo” but, like it or not, that is the way the universe works.

Let’s talk about people. If your attitude towards people is “I don’t trust people” or “people always leave me” then you’ll have untrustworthy “leavers” that come into your life.

My work with my clients focuses on mindset, emotions and language — in that order. What you think determines how you feel. How you feel determines how you speak. How you speak determines what shows up for you. It’s that simple. However, if you get those three areas in check, you’ll be amazed at how much easier, more fun, more productive, more abundant your life will be!

Let me give you three strategies to help you take a look at your attitudes and turn them around so they are working FOR you, not against you.

Make a list of everything that is happening in your life right now in four, easy categories: Love, Money, Success and Happiness.

I have a process called the “Desired Life Design.” It’s a powerful exercise that looks at everything going on in your life, wanted and unwanted. It is my belief that everything can be categorized under these for things. For instance, I categorize my kids under “Love.” I categorize my coaching under “Money.” I categorize my home under “Success” and I categorize my fun under “Happiness.” If you want the template for this exercise, you can email me at info@DianeForster.com and I’ll send it to you. List EVERYTHING and be HONEST with yourself. Write down what your attitude is towards every single item on the list.

Look at the list and see what you consider “Working” and “Not Working.”

This is so telling! When you do this part of the process, you’ll begin to notice where you may have negative or limiting beliefs about what you deserve. For example, making money may come easy to you, but you may have trouble in the area of love, or you may be working so much you haven’t given any attention to fun or social activities in your life. This list is going to tell you volumes about yourself! This is a little harsh to do, as it makes you take a good, hard look at yourself and your beliefs.

Write down what your beliefs and attitudes are about the ones that aren’t working.

We are all a work in progress, so don’t beat yourself up about this. Embrace the fact that you are an ever learning, expanding being and that if you don’t look at what’s not working, you cannot begin to adjust it. Einstein said, “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” Hence, your attitude! The same attitude you had won’t render a different result…ever!

So, take the time to look at this list, then write down the OPPOSITE view, or attitude, about that situation.

Our unconscious mind represents 90% of what goes on in our minds. It is FILLED with old memories, negative chatter, harmful memories, and on and on. The good news is the unconscious mind is literal. It will believe whatever we tell it. Therefore, by “reprogramming” it to believe what we WANT to have happen versus our current reality, and we affirm it over and over again, it WILL change and it WILL believe it. We can adjust our thinking and attitude to be WHATEVER WE WANT IT TO BE! We just have to take the time and care to do the work. It’s totally worth doing.

Change your attitudes and your thinking and you’ll change your life!

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LOVE IT!: I LOVE MY ATTITUDES TOWARDS LIFE…FUN, EASY, FREE!

THANK IT!: I AM GRATEFUL TO HAVE A MIND THAT I GET TO CONTROL!

BRING IT!: NOBODY GETS TO TELL ME WHAT I CAN AND CAN’T DO! I GET TO DECIDE!

Quote: If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” – Maya Angelou

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The Boomerang Effect: A 3 Step Process to A Happier Life

October 14, 2017 // by Diane Forster

In psychology, the “boomerang effect” means a theory stating that attempts to restrict a person’s freedom or change a person’s attitudes often produce a strong opposing response. But, in spirituality, it means something totally different. The way you toss out a boomerang and it comes back to you, the boomerang effect, means that what you put out to the universe comes back to you…whether you want it or not! Like karma, you get what you give, you reap what you sow. Your attitude and actions reflect back to you what is “showing up” in your life.

So, the question is what are you “boomeranging” back into your life? Your relationships, your love life, your health, your family, your money, your career. Do you have the life you want? If not, let’s explore how to change that.

Here is a 3 Step Process to become more aware of what is “showing up”in your life and how to create more awareness around this topic:

Write down a description of where you are right now in your life in the following areas: Health, Love, Money, Family, Friendships, Spirituality, Career, Home Life.

By doing this exercise, you can see what is working in your life and what you may want to improve upon. If you’re like most people, there are some areas in your life that you would consider going well, while other areas could use some help.

Circle or write down descriptive words, adjectives and emotions you feel about each area.

This process will help you identify the language, feelings and energy you associate with each one of these categories in your life. Be as descriptive as you can be, and write as many as you can think of.

Look for and highlight the patterns and similar words. Use one color for positive words and a different color for negative words.

This piece will be the eye opener for you. For example, if you are not happy with your love life, and the words you use to describe your love life are negative: we fight, I don’t love him like I used to, I feel alone, we are like roommates instead of spouses, etc… That is a clear indication of WHY your relationship feels like that for you.

It all comes down to self love. It’s about knowing who you truly are. It’s about coming to the realization that when you love and accept yourself completely, you operate your life from a place of pure love and compassion. You understand that everyone deserves to be loved and accepted just as they are. The best thing you can do for yourself and others is to always be thinking about what you can do for others because you know that you are already complete…just as you are! When you know that, you put out that energy to the entire world, and it comes back to you…over and over again. Hence, you “boomerang” back your goodness, kindness, compassion and love.

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LOVE IT!; I LOVE THE BOOMERANG EFFECT IN MY LIFE!

THANK IT!: I AM GRATEFUL THE UNIVERSE LET’S ME KNOW HOW I’M DOING ALL OF THE TIME.

BRING IT!: I GIVE FIRST! I LOVE FIRST! I FORGIVE FIRST! I GET WHAT I PUT OUT THERE!

Quote: “When you speak directly at things and don’t say you’re going to try to do something or that you hope to do something, the universe will work with you. Think about it this way – a boomerang goes out and comes back to you if you throw it. If you throw it out at the universe, it will come back down to you on Earth.” J. B. Smoove

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Forgive Yourself for Quitting: 3 Ways To Not Feel Like a Loser!

October 12, 2017 // by Diane Forster

It does not make you a “loser” if you are a “quitter.” You’re not meant to do everything you set out to do! So, forgive yourself for quitting, for crying out loud!

Many of my clients have this habit of pointing out their so-called “failures” to me. Most of the time, they are focused on something they quit or gave up on. Some of them didn’t complete college, and they beat themselves up for not having a college degree and use that as an excuse for why they can’t be successful. Naturally, that is not true at all!

By the way, I don’t have a college degree. I study more now than I ever did as a kid, and now, I’m ready for it! Back then, I wasn’t. Back then, I was enticed to take a full-time position at an ad agency the summer between freshman and sophomore year, and I took it! While working full time during the day, I decided to attend court reporting school at night. I did that for two years before I realized I hated it, and so I quit that school, too. It just wasn’t for me! So, I focused my attention on advertising, and the result was an amazing career in advertising media and television sales that lasted for 32 years! No college degree required.

Now, I’m not saying that you don’t need college. All I’m saying is that we all have our own, unique paths and there is not one, cookie-cutter way to go. I’m also saying that if you are doing something (working at a job, playing a sport, etc.) and it’s not resonating with you, it’s perfectly fine to quit! If you put in a decent amount of time to fully assess your feelings about the situation and it’s not working, …Quit! Don’t worry what anyone else thinks.

Our time is so precious! We don’t get it back! Therefore, do not waste one moment of it doing something you don’t enjoy doing. Being able to do this without feeling any guilt requires you to be able to forgive yourself.

In my book, I have a section on the Three Levels of Forgiveness. First, of self, second, of the act or person, and third, of self again. Why are we the recipient of two of the three steps? Because we are so hard on ourselves, and we need to learn how to forgive ourselves over and over again.

Here are three ways to learn how to forgive yourself for quitting:

Draw a Timeline of the Peak Emotional Experiences in Your Life

Draw a straight line on a piece of paper horizontally. Start to record all the positive and negative moments in your life on the timeline by age. Put the positive moments above the line and the negative moments below the line. This will help you see how many positive experiences you’ve had in your life…many of them have been as a result of you quitting something so you could pursue something else. This is a GREAT way to look at a snapshot of your life and all the successes and wonderful memories you have had.

Write Down One Moment of “Quitting” that Plays Over and Over in Your Head

I have a client who can’t get over the fact that she left a man she loved but wasn’t sure about. He is now married to someone in the public eye, so she is constantly reminded that he is the one she let go. It torments her. Therefore, I had her do the following exercise and it helped her put him behind her and go on with her life.

Write down one thing that you play over and over in your mind thinking “shoulda, woulda, coulda.” Once you have it down, write a list of at least 10 reasons why it was the RIGHT decision! Go deep! Think it all the way through on how many other gifts you’ve been able to attract into your life because of the results of you quitting something or someone. Just like the timeline exercise, this will really help you move past being stuck in un-forgiveness of yourself for quitting, and create the feeling of satisfaction instead of regret.

As Soon as You Feel Like Something is Not Right, Quit As Soon As Possible

Sometimes quitting is the best solution. If the relationship is not working, get out of it! Do not stay in a relationship too long, thinking it is going to get better. As soon as you feel something is wrong, get out of it. The same applies to a job, or a partnership, or a toxic friendship.

Understand that the sooner you quit, the sooner the doors will open up for the universe to bring in something better for you. Trust your gut and really listen to your intuition. If you need help tuning in to your intuition, reach out to work with me directly on how to tune into it. I teach my clients how to manifest and how to tune in to their own intuition.

Forgiving yourself for quitting and learning the art of letting it go is actually being smart enough, wise enough, trusting yourself that it wasn’t the right thing or the right time. You got a lot of value from it and the exact lessons and gifts you were supposed to…including pain, sadness, rejection, relief, clarity, confidence, etc. Now, forgive yourself for quitting and move on.

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LOVE IT!: I LOVE BEING ABLE TO CHANGE DIRECTION IN MY LIFE!

THANK IT!: I AM GRATEFUL FOR MY INTUITION WHEN IT COMES TO DECISION-MAKING!

BRING IT!: I KNOW EXACTLY WHEN TO GET OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP OR SITUATION THAT’S NO LONGER WORKING FOR ME!

Quote: “Forgive yourself for not having the foresight to know what now seems so obvious in hindsight.” – Judy Belmont

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