Your Words Matter!

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Your Words Matter! with Diane Forster

In the past, I’ve written on the subjects Watch What You Say! and What Questions Do You Ask Yourself?  Today, I’m writing on the topic Your Words Matter. The reason that I focus so much on words and language is because it’s in what we SAY that brings into our lives what we have.

In my opinion, there are three layers to “Your Words Matter.” They are:

  • Layer 1: Whatever you say is bringing you what you are currently experiencing, and giving you more of what you’re saying, whether you want it or not!
  • Layer 2: Whatever you say to another is having a permanent, lasting impression on them.
  • Layer 3: The universe is infinite. So, whatever we say and think lives on infinitely!

If you say something negative about yourself or about someone else, that becomes YOUR truth. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks or says. It only matters what you do. Therefore, what you say and the way you say it becomes your reality.

Here’s an example. A client of mine that I worked with recently was very upset. She was feeling completely overwhelmed by everything she had on her plate. She had a lot to do, and so many perceived “problems” she had to take care of. She kept saying, “why do I keep getting more and more problems to deal with? It’s like as soon as deal with one problem, I get another one! I wake up in the morning worried about them and ask myself ‘what else could go wrong in my life today?’ And the problems keep piling up!”

I told her to STOP using those words and that language! The way the universe works is we get what we talk about. So, stop talking about your “problems!”

The universe is literal and the only word (or energy) understood is the word “yes.” So, if you keep focusing on “problems” you are going to get more “problems!” As challenging as it is sometimes, what you need to do is to just pause for a moment, think about the words you’re using and the thoughts you’re having about them, then SWITCH them around to something more POSITIVE.

Now, that isn’t always easy to do in the moment. In that case, just make the words and thoughts softer, so the energy can move more towards a positive, easy flowing result. In this instance, I suggested she change her words to, “I’m doing okay, and I know that everything will turn out alright for me.” In just that subtle shift, all of a sudden, she started feeling a little bit better, and her day started to turn around for her! It was THAT easy!

Here are three ways to create awareness to the words you’re using and their direct effect on what is showing up for you in your life:

Read Don Miguel Ruiz’ book, “The Four Agreements

The first of the four agreements is “Be Impeccable With Your Word.” He states that this is the most important of the four agreements because “through the word you express your creative power. It is through the word that you manifest everything. Regardless of what language you speak, your intent manifests through the word. What you dream, what you feel, and what you really are, will all be manifested through the word.” This book is so beautifully written and easy to understand how important what we say, think, feel and do is all directly related to what we have an experience in our lives. He very eloquently reveals our limiting beliefs that steal us from our joy.

If you’re not happy with your current circumstances, ask yourself “What Am I Saying or Doing that’s yielding me these results?”

That’s a POWERFUL question! Once you ask yourself this question, sit in quiet thought for a moment or two and allow yourself to give you the answers you’re seeking! Trust this process, because the answers WILL come! If you’re agitated with someone, ask yourself what you’re thinking and feeling about them that’s causing that emotional response. If you could stop, pause for a moment, switch your words to what it is you DO want, wouldn’t that be a worthwhile exercise!?! Because just know…it’s never about the “other person.” It’s about our thoughts, words, and beliefs about them.

Start your Day with POSITIVE, UPLIFTING Thoughts

One of my clients is feeling stressed by all the projects she needs to complete. She’s “hating” her life right how (her words) and doesn’t feel like doing any of them. I suggested she switch her language from “I have to do these projects” to “I GET to do these projects, and how lucky am I that I get to!” That has a MUCH different spin on the energy and attitude she’ll have doing them, and in the end, a much better produced result and outcome!” Therefore, pay attention to what you’re saying and how you’re saying it, and look for the subtle shifts that can literally turn the results around to be more positive!


In my online coaching program, I included 152 very powerful, uplifting affirmations, all in line with the “Love It! Think It! Bring It” way of thinking. There’s a set of three each for all 52 weeks a year. They are designed to keep your words on thoughts focused on positive, motivational emotions and away from the negative, unproductive feelings. You can find out more about the “I HAVE TODAY SYSTEM” on my website at

Here’s the bottom line…You are what you say you are, no matter what. And, you’re the one in control! It’s not outside of you, it’s within you. I hope this helps, and know that you’re doing okay. Each and every time you catch yourself, you get yourself closer and closer to feeling more joy and happiness on a regular basis. So, be well, speak well and live well!






Quote: “The word is so powerful that one word can change a life or destroy the lives of millions of people.” – Don Miguel Ruiz

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Watch What You Say!

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