“The circumstances in your life don’t change first. You’ve got to change first and decide that your happiness comes above all else.”
Diane Forster (12:16-12:36)
There are a lot of unhappy people in the world. Statistics show that approximately 90% of people aren’t happy in life. They aren’t getting the joy and satisfaction they could be out of their work, relationships, and other areas in their lives.
I went through my own period of unhappiness. I was unhappy in my marriage. I had a good career, but I couldn’t help feeling unfulfilled. I wasn’t honoring myself and I didn’t love myself. That state of unhappiness eventually led me to a suicide attempt that I now look back on as a moment of awakening. It was the start of a new path of healing myself through personal development, self-help, and a spiritual awakening.
“When you choose happiness first, create awareness about it, and move in that direction, then the circumstances change.”
– Diane Forster (11:47-11:56)
The Biggest Myth You Need to Dismiss
There’s a myth that keeps unhappy people from making the transformation they need to reclaim the joy in life. This myth states that in order for you to be happy, your circumstances need to change. But it’s not your circumstances that have to change. You have to change first. You need to first see, feel, speak, and visualize your happiness in order for your circumstances to change. Change is an inside job. It has to come from within you first. Each and every day, you have opportunities to choose happiness in every moment.
Three Keys for Getting Back to Happiness
It’s one thing to choose happiness, but how exactly do you get there? There are three fundamental steps to creating happiness in your life.
Get specific about what you want in life.
What does happiness look like to you? How will you know when you’ve reached happiness? Can you imagine how it will feel? Many people have been unhappy for so long that they can’t even imagine it. It’s up to you to get crystal clear on your definition of happiness.
Give yourself permission to be happy.
The only person stopping you from being happy is you. Are you not giving yourself permission to be happy? You may think you’re not allowed to want the things you want. You might even be confused about what you want without realizing it. When you give yourself permission to be happy, you allow the things that create happiness to come into your life.
“Your past is behind you, and your future is unknown. The moment you decide to make a change and take inspired action, the universe goes out of its way to meet you and exceed your expectations.”
– Diane Forster (18:07-18:20)
Remove things from your life.
Many of us have been convinced to think that we need to bring more things into our lives in order to be happy. This could be a new car or partner, more money, or a bigger home. But sometimes you need to remove some of those things to achieve happiness. Eliminating the things that are chipping away at your happiness creates space. That space allows you to create a new way of being, thinking, and feeling. Learn to remove whatever’s getting in the way of you and the life you want.
With a growing number of people reporting that their unhappy, and with suicide rates on the rise, we need keep ourselves from falling into the unhappiness trap. By focusing on these three keys to creating a new life, you can begin building the work and home life that fulfill you so that you can contribute more to yourself and to the people you love.
How to get involved
- To learn more about The Happiness Formula visit www.DianeForster.com/TheHappinessFormula
- For more information about working with Diane and to gain access to valuable resources visit dianeforster.com.
- You can contact Diane for coaching information at firstname.lastname@example.org.
- To learn more about the EED Process discussed on today’s episode, get Diane’s book, I Have Today.
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“You have to remove certain things from your life in order to create the space to be happy.” – Diane Forster (14:54-15:02)