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How to Trust Your Judgement of Someone

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How to Trust Your Judgement of Someone
How to Trust Your Judgement of Someone

This is not about being judgmental. This is about trusting YOU!

Have you ever been burned? Who hasn’t, right? It’s happened to most of us…you think you know someone, until you realize, you don’t. There is an easier way to tap into your trust of others.

When I had Barbara Roberts, famous Face Reader, on the show, she shared some stories on how she’s been able to help so many people and companies align with the right partners, employees and people, based on their facial features. It was a fascinating topic. If you want to know more, you can catch it right HERE. According to Barbara, you can tell SO MUCH about a person just by looking at their face. I love her work and her expertise.

How to Trust Your Judgement of Someone

There are other ways you can learn to trust your judgement of others that are equally as powerful. Here are three of them:

1. Your Intuition

Your “sixth sense” is the most powerful sense of all, in my opinion! We all have the power to tap into our intuition and follow its clues and guidance. Trust your gut feeling. It is never wrong! My belief is we have three minds: our head, our heart, and our gut. Listen to the heart and gut first before you listen to your head.

2. Your Ears

Use your listening skills to finely “tune in” to what someone is saying to you. When someone tells you who they are, BELIEVE them! If you’re a woman looking to date a man, and the man tells you, “I love women” please believe him! If you’re looking for an exclusive relationship with someone who only has eyes for you, he is probably not the guy for you! Maybe you’re looking to fill a position within your company, and the candidate speaks negatively about all the previous employers he’s worked for, you can believe he will do the same about yours.

3. Your Head

After you “tune in” and trust your initial “gut” reaction to someone, if there’s any question or doubt, the next thing to do is to ask around about this person. Do your due diligence and find out what other people think about him/her. Ask for referrals, their opinions, their experiences working with this individual, etc. This is a good practice both personally and professionally. While you ultimately want to decide for yourself how you feel about someone, it’s smart to inquire as well before you make your decision.

Have fun using these resources to help you attract more of the right kind of people you want to in your life.

Intention Statement: I HAVE TODAY to…Trust my Judgement of Others and Attract Only the Best People in Every Area of My Life!

With Love,
Diane

Quote: “Depend upon yourself. Make your judgement trustworthy by trusting it. You can develop good judgement as you do the muscles of your body – by judicious, daily exercise. To be known as a man of sound judgement will be much in your favor.” ~ Grantland Rice

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If you’d like to learn more about how to read faces, get Barbara Robert’s book HERE. 

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How to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage

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I was blessed to have Todd Creager on my show, “I HAVE TODAY with Diane Forster.”  Todd is a Marriage and Sex Therapist who helps couples create loving and passionate long-term relationships and singles find their soulmates.  He is a best-selling author, has made many media appearances and is a professor at USC School of Social Work.  I love his body of work and commitment to happy relationships and marriages.

Todd said the number one problem is not being connected.  If you’re fighting about money, you have a disconnection about money.  If you’re not having sex, you have a disconnection about sex.  And so on.

My own marriage was so toxic, and it almost cost me my life.  Thank goodness it didn’t and I was able to heal from it and move on to be doing and living the life I am living now.  Not all relationships are meant to last.  But, for many couples, you can take some simple steps to resolve conflict and the challenges you may be dealing with in your relationship.   Here are three ways to do it.

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3 Ways to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage

  1. E.D.’s – Emotional Energy Diffusers

I developed this simple, three-step process and write all about it in my book, “I HAVE TODAY:  Find Your Passion, Purpose & Smile…Finally!”

This will help you alleviate the pressures that build up when your spouse is driving you nuts!

The process is to simply BREATHE, THINK, PRAISE.  The details can be found in the book on what that means and how it works, but just know this…you are always one breath away from feeling relief, whatever is going on has nothing to do with you, and the other person is always doing the best from where they are in that moment, and that is ok.

This simple process not only helps with communicating in your relationships with your spouse, but it works for all relationships.  It also works on feelings of stress, anxiety, worry, doubt, and fear.  It’s so powerful!

  1. Stop Having Expectations Based on What YOU Need

If you want to do something nice for your spouse, it needs to be for selfish reasons.  It needs to be because YOU want to do it and that’s it!  If you’re doing something with the hopes to elicit a certain response, you are asking for disappointment.  It’s not reasonable to EXPECT someone to act the way YOU want them to act.  No two people are alike, no matter how much they have in common.  When you have expectations of getting a certain response, you’ve now given to this person under conditions.  Think about it this way…how would it feel if your spouse gave something to you…a back rub, cooked dinner for you, cleaned up the kitchen, bought you flowers, or something like that, and said to you, “OK, now you have to say ‘Thank You’ the way I want you to say ‘Thank You’ and now you have to do something for me.”  How would that feel?  Would you ever want to accept something from your spouse like that?

This goes way, way deeper, like in your communication style.  There’s too much to say about this here, but this is a topic worth digging into more deeply.

  1. Be More Playful and Less Serious

One of the things I hear from my clients repeatedly is that they have forgotten how to have fun and have lost their sense of humor.  How sad!  Is this true for you, and is it true for you in your relationship?  Do you remember the silly fun you used to have in the beginning?  Please, please, please try and remember…this journey of life is supposed to be fun!  Moreover, it’s supposed to be fun with the love of your life, your best friend, your partner in all of this!  Touch each other more often, find ways to laugh more and CONNECT more, and do whatever you can to keep the youthfulness and playfulness alive!

You found each other.  That’s special.  Don’t waste a single day in ego.  Drop it.  Let it go.  Learn to forgive and forget.  Be gentle and kind.  Be passionate.  Be the shoulder to lean on.  Be there…for better or worse…but, do your best to make TODAY and every day better.

Affirmation Statement:

I HAVE TODAY…to fall in love with my Love all over again!

With Love,

Diane

Quote: “A happy marriage requires that we fall in love…over and over again with the same person.” – Anonymous

 

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How to Fall in Love Again with Your Partner

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Last week, the topic was about singles learning how to fall in love again after being hurt or being alone for a long time.  This week, the topic is for you if you are married or in a committed relationship where you feel like you’ve fallen out of love with your partner but would like to reignite that love and passion again.

The beginning stages of a relationship are easy!  All those cute little quirks are endearing…until they’re not!  One day out of the blue, the way he slurps his coffee drives you insane, and so it begins…the slow and steady decline of your love life together into the abyss of decreased romantic energy, lack of effort, and unreasonable expectations of the other person.

There’s only about a million books and articles written on this topic.  It’s a question that comes up in my coaching all the time when working with my clients.  People want to know, “Is it possible to fall back in love with my partner?  And if so, “How do I do it?”

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Here are three sure-fire ways to reignite your passion and love life:

  1. Get Physical and Playful

Remember in the beginning when you couldn’t keep your hands off each other?  Wouldn’t it feel so good to feel like that again?  Well, you can!  Go back and remember what YOU were like.  You’d take extra care to look really good, your “love is blind” goggles only allowed you to see things in him/her that you liked, and you appreciated every small gesture.  Remember how excited you would get when you were on your way to see each other?

The key is to bring all those feelings back!  Make the effort to look good for him/her as much as possible.  ONLY focus on the qualities you like about him/her and don’t look for the ones that make you crazy.  Express gratitude and appreciation for every little gesture.  Start touching each other as often as possible.  Be excited when he/she walks through the door…get up and go say hello!  If the dog can jump up and run to the door to greet him/her, why can’t you?  How good would feel for YOU to be greeted like that?  It would feel amazing!!!

  1. Earn Each Other’s Trust Daily

This is huge.  It is my belief that the number one value any relationship must have is honesty.  Even one omission or little white lie hurts the relationship.  You don’t have to share the same opinion about everything.  You just need to be honest about your feelings.  If you communicate in a kind and respectful way, there shouldn’t be anything you couldn’t tell your partner.  Nothing.

If you are trying to rekindle the flame with your partner, you don’t have to go all the way back to the beginning.  You can start now…TODAY.  Begin by telling him/her that you’d very much like to deepen your loving relationship and you want to start doing so by asking this question daily: 

“Is there anything you can to tell me today that would allow us to deepen our trust for each other?”

THAT is a powerful question!  That question will open the lines of communication deeply!  Imagine the breakthroughs and intimacy that can happen by communicating with each other like this!  You will build and fill your trust bank and connection with each other every single day.  You may want to do this during dinner conversation or at bedtime when you can both look into each other’s eyes.  Do it in a way that creates space for intimacy to happen.

  1. Fall In Love Every Single Day

One of the practices I teach is Mantra Meditations.  They’re powerful statements that go to work on your subconscious mind and help “reprogram” old, negative data with powerful, positive beliefs instead.  Most of mine start with, “I Have Today to…”  The one that works best to keep your love alive is, “I Have Today to Fall in Love with (fill in the name of your partner) ALL OVER AGAIN!”  The next step is to state a list of at least ten things you love about that person.  Say them aloud or in your head.  It is SO much easier to stay IN LOVE with someone if you practice saying the list of qualities you love about them on a daily basis.

At the beginning of working to re-ignite your love, it might be hard to remember the things you love about him/her.  But, the more you practice this, the easier it will get, and the longer your list will grow, too!

Like anything else, loving relationships take work.  They need constant care and attention.  But, it’s work worth doing.  You were lucky enough to find each other to begin with.  If it can be salvaged and reignited, isn’t it worth it to try?

Affirmation Statements:

LOVE IT!:  I LOVE BEING IN LOVE AGAIN WITH MY PARTNER!

THANK IT!:  I AM SO GRATEFUL FOR OUR DEEP, RICH, INTIMATE LOVE FOR EACH OTHER!

BRING IT!:  THERE’S NO ONE ELSE ON EARTH I’D RATHER JOURNEY WITH THAN MY PARTNER!

With Love,

Diane

Quote:  One advantage of marriage is that, when you fall out of love with him or he falls out of love with you, it keeps you together until you fall in again.” – Judith Viorst

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Tired of Being Alone? 3 Ways How to Fall in Love Again

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If you’re someone who has been single for quite some time, THIS IS FOR YOU!  Loneliness is epidemic in the world today, and it’s made worse by the isolation created due to our technology.  We’ve never been more connected in one way yet so alone in many other ways…especially when it comes to love.  There are so many people longing for true love and the feeling of deep, intimate connection with their partner.

You’ve been hurt in the past.  You’re scared.  You feel like you’re afraid to trust again.  You don’t want to feel rejected.  You can’t find what you’re looking for.  You’re picky.  You’ve convinced yourself that maybe being in love and living happily ever after isn’t in the cards for you.  Does any of this sound like you? Are you ready to fall in love again?

What would it feel like to…

  • Find the one you’ve been longing for?
  • Trust that you are worthy of a rich, divine loving relationship?
  • Be living each day in a loving, committed relationship and be happy?
  • Go to sleep with and wake up next to the love of your life?
  • Never feel lonely ever again?!?

Sounds great, right?  Too good to be true? Nope.  It’s absolutely yours to have.

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Are you ready to find out how? 

  1. Make Sure You’re Really READY!

As an avid student and practitioner of Manifestation and The Law of Attraction, there is one thing I know for sure…if he or she isn’t showing up, it’s because you’re not ready.  You may think that you are, but your actions are saying something else.  Let’s assess your level of readiness:

  • Do you have room for him/her in your life?
  • Do you keep yourself so busy that you hear yourself saying, “I don’t have time to date?”
  • Are you taking regular actions and putting energy around inviting him/her into your life?

If you want it, then your actions need to mirror that.  How committed are you?  My last three relationships came into my life the moment I was READY!  One showed up two days after I asked for him.  The next relationship appeared on the EXACT DATE I asked for him by.  My current relationship happened less than two weeks after I got clear about what I wanted, and WHAM…there he was!  YOU NEED TO BE CLEAR AND YOU NEED TO BE READY!

  1. Embrace Online Dating!

Online dating is AMAZING, but it gets such a bad rap.  If you’re on a good site that verifies profiles and you’re smart about not giving out too much personal information, you have access to a world of incredible people!!!  Turn your negative attitude about it into a positive attitude, then watch how different the experience becomes for you!  HAVE FUN WITH IT!!!  Instead of feeling like it’s a chore and another job, treat it like a fun, shopping spree!  Don’t be so quick to judge a book by its cover.  Connect, connect, connect!  Remember, you’re looking for “the one,” but in order to find him/her, you need to get out there and date a lot.  Every date you go on gives you greater clarity about what you really want and moves you closer to it each time.  Plus, you make new friendships and relationships along the way.  Don’t forget, they are looking for love and connection, too.  What you seek is seeking you!

Don’t do the “texting” thing.  Go meet for coffee.  Get together immediately.  Don’t waste each other’s time.  Find out right away if there’s a connection.  Make the time.  Make the effort.  Date frequently.  HAVE A POSITIVE, UPBEAT ATTITUDE about it!  (Note:  please read or watch my “Attitudes Determine the Outcomes” blog and webinar to help you become a better attractor.)

  1. Be Open, Vulnerable and Optimistic

Before you begin any communication, whether it’s online or an in-person date, SET THE INTENTION:  “I Intend To Be Open, Vulnerable and Optimistic.”  Be your authentic self.  Don’t play games, don’t be shy or coy, and especially…don’t be guarded.  Be brave enough to make the first move.  (I love BUMBLE because the woman MUST make the first move.  It takes all the guesswork out of the equation.)  By being “real” you give the other person the opportunity to be “real” too.  Remember, we are all perfectly imperfect…so when you’re open, vulnerable and optimistic from the start, you create an environment to make a “real” intimate connection right from the beginning.  Isn’t that what you want and what you’re looking for?

We’ve just scratched the surface here…but, this is a great start!  Do these three things and you will be well on your way to falling in love again!

Affirmation Statements:

LOVE IT!:  I LOVE MYSELF AND I LOVE BEING IN LOVE!

THANK IT!:  I AM GRATEFUL TO BE IN A DIVINE, LOVING RELATIONSHIP!

BRING IT!:  THE MOMENT I DECIDED I WAS READY, MY LOVE SHOWED UP!

If you want to find out exactly how to create room for your relationship, how to set up an exciting, engaging online profile, and learn what to say and do on the first date, then email my team at info@dianeforster.com and schedule a private session with me.  You’ll be in a new, fun, exciting relationship so fast guaranteed!  I promise you, it’s closer than you realize!  ARE YOU READY???

 

With Love,

Diane

QUOTE:  “First best is falling in love. Second best is being in love. Least best is falling out of love. But any of it is better than never having been in love.”  – Maya Angelou

 

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How to Find Like-Minded People

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Diane Forster How to Find Like-Minded People

Are the people you’re spending time with lifting you up or bringing you down?  It is my belief that every one of us needs four things…to be seen, heard, appreciated and acknowledged.  We have a hard enough time quieting the mindset monster that lives in our heads without spending any extra energy being surrounded by those who make us feel bad about ourselves.  That is why it is so important to have loving, supportive, like-minded people in your life.

Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”  Who are you spending your time with?  Do they believe in you?  Do they lift you up?  Do they help you when you need it?

Here’s a biggie…do they judge you?  I used to be so judgemental…for no reason!  I’m not sure where it came from or how it happened exactly, but I’m not judging or blaming anyone for it.  I’m owning it!  It was my own insecurities and the places I needed to LIKE and love myself more.   However, during my reinvention, I learned there was no place or room for me to judge anyone…including me.  It wasn’t anyone’s fault, just their perception.  That said, if you don’t feel good around someone, then you might want to rethink spending time with them.  Life is too short and time is too precious.

Diane Forster How to Find Like-Minded People

Here are three ways to help you find more like-minded people in your life:

It’s OK to Walk Away

Reason, Season, Lifetime…you’ve heard this before.  Some people are meant to be in your life for a reason, a season, or your lifetime.  Breaking off relationships can be scary.  But, if you don’t get rid of the old, you don’t create room for the new.  Whether it’s a lover, a friend, a boss, a family member, it doesn’t matter.  If you can’t fix it or make it work for YOU, then get out of it and stay away.  That will open up space for richer, more fulfilling relationships to step in.

Learn How to Say No

Do you have a hard time saying “no” to people?  Do you worry that you’ll hurt someone’s feelings?  How’s that working out for YOU?  In this day and age with social media and connection to everyone on the entire planet, there is ALWAYS something to do and someone vying for your time.  This is where you need to learn to be very selective with your precious time and only do things that you want to do with people you want to do it with!  In my book, “I HAVE TODAY: Find Your Passion, Purpose and Smile…Finally!” I talk about how to graciously say, ‘no” by setting healthy boundaries.  Remember, you don’t get that time back…ever.  Learning how to politely say “no” will allow space for more “yes” opportunities with like-minded people you enjoy being around!

Ask for Help

Grow your network of support…in business and in life…by asking for help and support.  I learned this from my friend and mentor, Berny Dorhmann, Chairman of CEO Space International.  He taught me about the importance of collaboration, cooperation, and the mastermind.

Ask for introductions and connections.  If you’re looking for love, tell your like-minded people you’re interested in meeting someone special and you’re open to being in a relationship.  These people love and support you and will go out of their way to help you make it happen!  The same goes for your business.  Ask for help and support in finding the right clients and resources to help you grow your business.  That’s collaboration…not competition…and like-minded people will get that and will not be intimidated by it.  Having like-minded people around you makes it much easier to ask for help, too!  It’s way less intimidating!

One last thing to note…we are all magnetic attractors, so if you’re attracting people into your life that are not supportive, that is something worth exploring within you.  Once you see it, you can’t not see it.  It’s in that moment that you get to decide to change it.  Like-minded mentors and friends will help.  You don’t need to do it alone.  Start attracting more like-minded people in your life.

LOVE IT!:  I LOVE MY SUPPORTIVE COMMUNITY!

THANK IT!:  I AM GRATEFUL FOR ALL THE LIKE-MINDED PEOPLE IN MY LIFE!

BRING IT!:  I FEEL SO EMPOWERED BEING SURROUNDED BY SO MUCH LOVE AND SUPPORT!

With Love,

Diane

Quote:  “Spend time with those you love. One of these days you will either say, ‘I wish I had,’ or, ‘I’m glad I did.’” – Zig Ziglar

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