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How to Fall in Love Again with Your Partner

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Last week, the topic was about singles learning how to fall in love again after being hurt or being alone for a long time.  This week, the topic is for you if you are married or in a committed relationship where you feel like you’ve fallen out of love with your partner but would like to reignite that love and passion again.

The beginning stages of a relationship are easy!  All those cute little quirks are endearing…until they’re not!  One day out of the blue, the way he slurps his coffee drives you insane, and so it begins…the slow and steady decline of your love life together into the abyss of decreased romantic energy, lack of effort, and unreasonable expectations of the other person.

There’s only about a million books and articles written on this topic.  It’s a question that comes up in my coaching all the time when working with my clients.  People want to know, “Is it possible to fall back in love with my partner?  And if so, “How do I do it?”

Diane Forster How to fall in love again with your parter

Here are three sure-fire ways to reignite your passion and love life:

  1. Get Physical and Playful

Remember in the beginning when you couldn’t keep your hands off each other?  Wouldn’t it feel so good to feel like that again?  Well, you can!  Go back and remember what YOU were like.  You’d take extra care to look really good, your “love is blind” goggles only allowed you to see things in him/her that you liked, and you appreciated every small gesture.  Remember how excited you would get when you were on your way to see each other?

The key is to bring all those feelings back!  Make the effort to look good for him/her as much as possible.  ONLY focus on the qualities you like about him/her and don’t look for the ones that make you crazy.  Express gratitude and appreciation for every little gesture.  Start touching each other as often as possible.  Be excited when he/she walks through the door…get up and go say hello!  If the dog can jump up and run to the door to greet him/her, why can’t you?  How good would feel for YOU to be greeted like that?  It would feel amazing!!!

  1. Earn Each Other’s Trust Daily

This is huge.  It is my belief that the number one value any relationship must have is honesty.  Even one omission or little white lie hurts the relationship.  You don’t have to share the same opinion about everything.  You just need to be honest about your feelings.  If you communicate in a kind and respectful way, there shouldn’t be anything you couldn’t tell your partner.  Nothing.

If you are trying to rekindle the flame with your partner, you don’t have to go all the way back to the beginning.  You can start now…TODAY.  Begin by telling him/her that you’d very much like to deepen your loving relationship and you want to start doing so by asking this question daily: 

“Is there anything you can to tell me today that would allow us to deepen our trust for each other?”

THAT is a powerful question!  That question will open the lines of communication deeply!  Imagine the breakthroughs and intimacy that can happen by communicating with each other like this!  You will build and fill your trust bank and connection with each other every single day.  You may want to do this during dinner conversation or at bedtime when you can both look into each other’s eyes.  Do it in a way that creates space for intimacy to happen.

  1. Fall In Love Every Single Day

One of the practices I teach is Mantra Meditations.  They’re powerful statements that go to work on your subconscious mind and help “reprogram” old, negative data with powerful, positive beliefs instead.  Most of mine start with, “I Have Today to…”  The one that works best to keep your love alive is, “I Have Today to Fall in Love with (fill in the name of your partner) ALL OVER AGAIN!”  The next step is to state a list of at least ten things you love about that person.  Say them aloud or in your head.  It is SO much easier to stay IN LOVE with someone if you practice saying the list of qualities you love about them on a daily basis.

At the beginning of working to re-ignite your love, it might be hard to remember the things you love about him/her.  But, the more you practice this, the easier it will get, and the longer your list will grow, too!

Like anything else, loving relationships take work.  They need constant care and attention.  But, it’s work worth doing.  You were lucky enough to find each other to begin with.  If it can be salvaged and reignited, isn’t it worth it to try?

Affirmation Statements:

LOVE IT!:  I LOVE BEING IN LOVE AGAIN WITH MY PARTNER!

THANK IT!:  I AM SO GRATEFUL FOR OUR DEEP, RICH, INTIMATE LOVE FOR EACH OTHER!

BRING IT!:  THERE’S NO ONE ELSE ON EARTH I’D RATHER JOURNEY WITH THAN MY PARTNER!

With Love,

Diane

Quote:  One advantage of marriage is that, when you fall out of love with him or he falls out of love with you, it keeps you together until you fall in again.” – Judith Viorst

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Tired of Being Alone? 3 Ways How to Fall in Love Again

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If you’re someone who has been single for quite some time, THIS IS FOR YOU!  Loneliness is epidemic in the world today, and it’s made worse by the isolation created due to our technology.  We’ve never been more connected in one way yet so alone in many other ways…especially when it comes to love.  There are so many people longing for true love and the feeling of deep, intimate connection with their partner.

You’ve been hurt in the past.  You’re scared.  You feel like you’re afraid to trust again.  You don’t want to feel rejected.  You can’t find what you’re looking for.  You’re picky.  You’ve convinced yourself that maybe being in love and living happily ever after isn’t in the cards for you.  Does any of this sound like you? Are you ready to fall in love again?

What would it feel like to…

  • Find the one you’ve been longing for?
  • Trust that you are worthy of a rich, divine loving relationship?
  • Be living each day in a loving, committed relationship and be happy?
  • Go to sleep with and wake up next to the love of your life?
  • Never feel lonely ever again?!?

Sounds great, right?  Too good to be true? Nope.  It’s absolutely yours to have.

3 Ways to Fall in Love again with Diane Forster

Are you ready to find out how? 

  1. Make Sure You’re Really READY!

As an avid student and practitioner of Manifestation and The Law of Attraction, there is one thing I know for sure…if he or she isn’t showing up, it’s because you’re not ready.  You may think that you are, but your actions are saying something else.  Let’s assess your level of readiness:

  • Do you have room for him/her in your life?
  • Do you keep yourself so busy that you hear yourself saying, “I don’t have time to date?”
  • Are you taking regular actions and putting energy around inviting him/her into your life?

If you want it, then your actions need to mirror that.  How committed are you?  My last three relationships came into my life the moment I was READY!  One showed up two days after I asked for him.  The next relationship appeared on the EXACT DATE I asked for him by.  My current relationship happened less than two weeks after I got clear about what I wanted, and WHAM…there he was!  YOU NEED TO BE CLEAR AND YOU NEED TO BE READY!

  1. Embrace Online Dating!

Online dating is AMAZING, but it gets such a bad rap.  If you’re on a good site that verifies profiles and you’re smart about not giving out too much personal information, you have access to a world of incredible people!!!  Turn your negative attitude about it into a positive attitude, then watch how different the experience becomes for you!  HAVE FUN WITH IT!!!  Instead of feeling like it’s a chore and another job, treat it like a fun, shopping spree!  Don’t be so quick to judge a book by its cover.  Connect, connect, connect!  Remember, you’re looking for “the one,” but in order to find him/her, you need to get out there and date a lot.  Every date you go on gives you greater clarity about what you really want and moves you closer to it each time.  Plus, you make new friendships and relationships along the way.  Don’t forget, they are looking for love and connection, too.  What you seek is seeking you!

Don’t do the “texting” thing.  Go meet for coffee.  Get together immediately.  Don’t waste each other’s time.  Find out right away if there’s a connection.  Make the time.  Make the effort.  Date frequently.  HAVE A POSITIVE, UPBEAT ATTITUDE about it!  (Note:  please read or watch my “Attitudes Determine the Outcomes” blog and webinar to help you become a better attractor.)

  1. Be Open, Vulnerable and Optimistic

Before you begin any communication, whether it’s online or an in-person date, SET THE INTENTION:  “I Intend To Be Open, Vulnerable and Optimistic.”  Be your authentic self.  Don’t play games, don’t be shy or coy, and especially…don’t be guarded.  Be brave enough to make the first move.  (I love BUMBLE because the woman MUST make the first move.  It takes all the guesswork out of the equation.)  By being “real” you give the other person the opportunity to be “real” too.  Remember, we are all perfectly imperfect…so when you’re open, vulnerable and optimistic from the start, you create an environment to make a “real” intimate connection right from the beginning.  Isn’t that what you want and what you’re looking for?

We’ve just scratched the surface here…but, this is a great start!  Do these three things and you will be well on your way to falling in love again!

Affirmation Statements:

LOVE IT!:  I LOVE MYSELF AND I LOVE BEING IN LOVE!

THANK IT!:  I AM GRATEFUL TO BE IN A DIVINE, LOVING RELATIONSHIP!

BRING IT!:  THE MOMENT I DECIDED I WAS READY, MY LOVE SHOWED UP!

If you want to find out exactly how to create room for your relationship, how to set up an exciting, engaging online profile, and learn what to say and do on the first date, then email my team at info@dianeforster.com and schedule a private session with me.  You’ll be in a new, fun, exciting relationship so fast guaranteed!  I promise you, it’s closer than you realize!  ARE YOU READY???

 

With Love,

Diane

QUOTE:  “First best is falling in love. Second best is being in love. Least best is falling out of love. But any of it is better than never having been in love.”  – Maya Angelou

 

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It’s OK to be Mad at God…Really!

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God's Unconditional Love with Diane Forster Intentional Living Expert

So many people worry about letting God down, not living up to God’s expectations, fearing that if you don’t live up to a certain standard that God won’t let you past the pearly gates.  I say, “God is here to serve YOU.”  I talk about and help others to find passion and purpose.

Did you ever stop to think about what God’s purpose is?  His existence to designed to help you…not the other way around.  This might anger some of you out there, but what if you open yourself up to believe that it is true? I think it is a conversation worth exploring.

Whatever you believe in…God, the universe, a higher power…there is no negative energy.  None.  Like I’ve mentioned before, LOVE is the only universal condition.  Therefore, God could never judge you or get angry with you.  But…that doesn’t mean that you can’t get mad at God

God's Unconditional Love with Diane Forster

Here are three ways to know that God Loves You Unconditionally:

  1. God Feels and Sees Your Perfection

God feels when you are in pain and truly only wants to make it better for you!  So, express it!  Anger and all!  Get mad.  Shout aloud when you’re frustrated, angry or hurt.  God won’t take it personally.

God appreciates hearing from you because His sole purpose is to give to you…anything and everything you want.  You just have to ask.  God needs your guidance…what you don’t want as well as what you do want.

  1. God wants you to be having FUN in THIS life

The bliss you’ll feel once you cross over from physical to non-physical again has been shared by many people who have died and come back to life.  They describe a level of love that is unimaginable and feelings of overwhelming joy and happiness.  I recently read Anita Moorjani’s book, “Dying to Be Me.”

I bought it a few years ago but just recently decided to read it.  I loved every word of Anita’s story and her description of the miraculous healing she experienced from a terminal cancer diagnosis to a complete full remission and return to a perfectly healthy state.  Read this book!  It’s incredible.

The point I’m making here is this…the afterlife will be blissful beyond belief.  It’s been said over and over again.  So, don’t waste time in this life doing things to “please God.”  He already loves and accepts you just as you are!  Have more fun!  Laugh and play as often as possible.  Enjoy your earthly journey!

  1. Sometimes It’s Hard to See, but God is Working Out Everything in Your Favor

It is my firm belief that everything, no matter what it is, is always working out FOR us…including our pain and difficult times.

However, when you’re in the midst of crisis or chaos, it is virtually impossible to see that.  That’s the time to express your anger and frustration at God and ask him for help, signs, clues to understanding why and to move you through whatever it is as quickly and painlessly as possible.

Recently, something very frustrating and disturbing happened to me related to my family.  I got in my car, and as I drove, I screamed so loudly to God for answers.  Why was this happening, and what can I do to make this stop?  I was angry and didn’t want to deal with this any longer, and I must have screamed the whole way home.  The next day, my storm had passed, all was well and forgiven, and I went on that day to write the complete outline for my next book and program on manifestation.

Boom…breakthrough.  It felt like God gave me the ice cream sundae, then gave me bonus whipped cream and two cherries on top!  I asked, He answered abundantly…despite my anger.

Don’t be afraid to express your anger to God…you won’t go to hell and you won’t be punished.  Turn to His compassion, generosity and unconditional love.  That’s what it’s there for.  We all need that now and again.

Affirmation Statements:

LOVE IT!:  I LOVE FEELING GOD’S UNCONDITIONAL LOVE FOR ME!

THANK IT!:  I AM SO GRATEFUL TO KNOW THAT GOD IS ALWAYS THERE FOR ME!

BRING IT!:  GOD HAS GOT MY BACK, NO MATTER WHAT!

With Love,

Diane

Quote: “God will ALWAYS be there for you 24 hours a day, and He will NEVER get too bored to listen to your problems or heartaches.” – Unknown

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