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How to Trust Your Judgement of Someone

September 27, 2018 // by Diane Forster

This is not about being judgmental. This is about trusting YOU!

Have you ever been burned? Who hasn’t, right? It’s happened to most of us…you think you know someone, until you realize, you don’t. There is an easier way to tap into your trust of others.

When I had Barbara Roberts, famous Face Reader, on the show, she shared some stories on how she’s been able to help so many people and companies align with the right partners, employees and people, based on their facial features. It was a fascinating topic. If you want to know more, you can catch it right HERE. According to Barbara, you can tell SO MUCH about a person just by looking at their face. I love her work and her expertise.

There are other ways you can learn to trust your judgement of others that are equally as powerful. Here are three of them:

1. Your Intuition

Your “sixth sense” is the most powerful sense of all, in my opinion! We all have the power to tap into our intuition and follow its clues and guidance. Trust your gut feeling. It is never wrong! My belief is we have three minds: our head, our heart, and our gut. Listen to the heart and gut first before you listen to your head.

2. Your Ears

Use your listening skills to finely “tune in” to what someone is saying to you. When someone tells you who they are, BELIEVE them! If you’re a woman looking to date a man, and the man tells you, “I love women” please believe him! If you’re looking for an exclusive relationship with someone who only has eyes for you, he is probably not the guy for you! Maybe you’re looking to fill a position within your company, and the candidate speaks negatively about all the previous employers he’s worked for, you can believe he will do the same about yours.

3. Your Head

After you “tune in” and trust your initial “gut” reaction to someone, if there’s any question or doubt, the next thing to do is to ask around about this person. Do your due diligence and find out what other people think about him/her. Ask for referrals, their opinions, their experiences working with this individual, etc. This is a good practice both personally and professionally. While you ultimately want to decide for yourself how you feel about someone, it’s smart to inquire as well before you make your decision.

Have fun using these resources to help you attract more of the right kind of people you want to in your life.

Intention Statement: I HAVE TODAY to…Trust my Judgement of Others and Attract Only the Best People in Every Area of My Life!

With Love,
Diane

Quote: “Depend upon yourself. Make your judgement trustworthy by trusting it. You can develop good judgement as you do the muscles of your body – by judicious, daily exercise. To be known as a man of sound judgement will be much in your favor.” ~ Grantland Rice

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The Second Half is WAY Better! Getting real about life after 50!

September 6, 2018 // by Diane Forster

On “I HAVE TODAY with Diane Forster” Silke Schwarzkopf, co-founder of 2nd Act TV, was a guest on the show, and we GOT REAL about life after 50. It was a fun, lively conversation! If you missed it or want to watch it again, you can catch it HERE. You may want to pour yourself a glass of wine first, if you partake.

Who says that 50 is old?

Who says that the “back nine” means you’re on the down climb? HA! Let me just say this…Life is just beginning in your 50’s! Attitude has a lot to do with it, but if you are cognizant about your mental health and well-being (meditation and mindful practices), and you take care of your physical body, prepare yourself for the ride of your life!!! Because, guess what? This stage of life ROCKS!!!!

I love Silke so much! She is like a soul sister because our backgrounds are so similar. We both “re-invented” our lives at 50. Both of us wouldn’t change a thing, because had we not gone through what we went through, we wouldn’t be the dynamic, fearless women we are today. We bless and forgive everything from our past, and we’ve moved on like eager children…ready for what’s coming next.

What about you? Where are you on the age, mindset, physical spectrum? How do you feel about the 2nd half? Are you or have you “started over?”

Here are three positives about life in your 50’s and beyond:

1. You Are MUCH Clearer about What You Want in Life!

When you know what you don’t want, you know what you do want…the opposite! The universe hears what you mean…not what you say, so if you know what you don’t want, the universe is setting you up for what you DO want. So, so cool…right? Here’s the thing…it sometimes takes up until your 50’s to figure all that out! You grew up thinking you wanted certain things. Then, you realize after you’ve gotten them, they may not be exactly what you wanted. The key here is CLARITY!!! Entering your sixth decade, you have so much experience to draw upon that creates clarity for you!

2. You Move into a Level of Greater Self-Acceptance!

When you get to be this age, you worry less about your physical appearance being so “perfect” and shift into a level of self-acceptance, deeper love of self, and frankly, not caring what other people think. At least, that’s what happened for me. I remember at 40 I started not caring, but once 50 rolled around, I REALLY didn’t care! In fact, if you ask my sisters and my friends, my three-word motto is, “I don’t care.” You realize that other people’s opinions and judgement of you are just that…THEIR opinions and judgement. Once you understand that the only truth that matters is your own, you let go of that need to do things for other’s approval. Wow, is that ever freeing!!! Nothing feels better than just being YOU for your own sake!

Age is a state of mind anyway.

As Christiane Northrop states in her book, ‘Goddesses Never Age’ “Your beliefs and thoughts are wired into your biology. They become your cells, tissues, and organs. There’s no supplement, no diet, no medicine, and no exercise regimen that can compare with the power of your thoughts and beliefs. That’s the very first place you need to look when anything goes wrong with your body.” Yep…You are what you BELIEVE!

3. You are Wiser, Sexier, Present and More Intentional!

This is a time in your life when you “OWN” it! You’re still young enough to look great, and yet, you’re old enough to know that life is a precious gift and every day matters! What a fantastic dynamic! You have the wisdom of years and experience behind you, your confidence is elevated…which is so sexy, and you embrace the “little moments” more intentionally because you know that you probably have less days in front of you than behind you. How delicious!

Getting older is inevitable, aging is a state of mind.

What state do you want to be in in your second half? Enjoy EVERY DAY of this fantastic journey of life! Live it Intentionally. Live it the “I HAVE TODAY” Way! Enjoy the ride! Wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

Intention Statement: I HAVE TODAY to…live each day to the fullest!

With Love,
Diane

Quote: “Age is just a number, and agelessness means not buying into the idea that a number determines
everything from your state of health to your attractiveness to your value.”
― Christiane Northrup, Goddesses Never Age: The Secret Prescription for Radiance, Vitality, and Well-Being

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People Can Tell When You’re Faking It!

July 17, 2018 // by Diane Forster

Ok, so…get your mind out of the gutter, or bedroom, or wherever it is right now! That is NOT what I’m talking about! I’m talking about your IMAGE, your BRAND, and your INTENTION.

I had Karlos Copara, Brand Expert and “Creative Fireball” on my show last week. Watch the episode of I HAVE TODAY with Diane Forster featuring Karlos here. We had so much fun together…getting real and deep about authenticity.

The purpose of this topic is to illuminate something I see going on a lot in the entrepreneurial world. Everyone is trying so hard to figure out their “niche” and to be able to identify and distinguish themselves from the masses. However, what’s happening is it starts to look and feel very inauthentic and well, quite frankly, fake.

I know what I’m talking about because I went through it, too. You get so much feedback from others, you see and hear so much “noise” on social media, it’s no wonder people are doing what they can to stand out. Without a big budget or a large following, how do you get seen and heard?

I’m still a fairly new entrepreneur, and my fan base isn’t big…YET!!! But, it’s growing. It takes time to build relationships with people. Real relationships. Real fans. Real following. Authentic. Organic.

Here are three ways for you to “check in” with yourself and assess your authenticity:

When You’re Not “Authentic” It FEELS Bad!

You literally don’t feel good in your own skin as you hear yourself speaking to someone about who you are and what you do. They can feel that, too. Your vibration is sending off “bad vibes” and you don’t garner trust or believability that way. Bottom line…nobody feels good in those situations, and it’s costing you both! It’s costing you money and clients, and it’s costing them the opportunity to work with you.

Ask Yourself “Why” You’re Doing Something.

Don’t you just love this question? It gets right to the core! Dean Graziosi does an exercise in his book “Millionaire Success Habits” called the “Seven Levels Deep Exercise.” He shows you how to GO DEEP into your “WHY” and it’s very illuminating. When you completely understand WHY you do what you do, it makes your life so much easier! You sell effortlessly, you create real, authentic connections, you become a magnetic attractor to others JUST LIKE YOU, which is who your avatar is in the first place!!!

Just Be YOU Because You are Enough!

You are already enough, right now! You already know everything you need to know to do whatever it is you’re doing! You don’t need to “learn” more…just get out there and do it! You learn as you go! Books don’t teach…life experience teaches! People want YOU, just as you are! They need YOU and YOUR OWN UNIQUE GIFTS…because we all have our own, special ones that no one has quite like you! Just know that you are enough!!!

Being authentic and getting “real” with yourself…in all your “perfect imperfection”…is all you ever have to be!

Affirmation Statement:

“I HAVE TODAY to…be true to who I am!”

With Love,

Diane

Quote: “If you’re faking it, people will know, and it’s going to turn a lot of people off.” ~Billy Eichner

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How to Raise Confident Kids: Empowering Our Younger Generation

July 10, 2018 // by Diane Forster

I had Marcy Morrison, Best Selling Author and Founder of Career With Wings, on I HAVE TODAY with Diane Forster (watch here) recently. Marcy is so passionate in her work and her life and helps others figure out their Passion + Purpose = World Change formula. We talked a lot about her path to finding her purpose, and when helping and supporting underprivileged youth became part of her passion and purpose as well.

We are both parents, and it’s important for us to instill strong values in our children. As parents, we always want what’s best for our kids. So, it got me thinking about ways we all can help foster empowerment in our younger generation.

Here are my top three ways to help foster empowerment in our younger generation:

Encourage Their Dreams!

I saw a Ted Talk by Emilie Wapnick titled, “Why Some of Us Don’t Have One True Calling” (watch here). She described that you could be a “Multipotentialite.” That is someone who has many interests and creative pursuits. Being a creator, with many interests myself, I LOVED this! As it relates to your children and the younger generation, we all need to be ENCOURAGING all their interests! Imagine telling a child “I’m sorry, Johnny, but you can only play with your trucks. You’re not allowed to dig in the sandbox, color with crayons, play basketball, or build with Lego’s.” The only way to find out if you really like something is to try it. If you don’t, for goodness sake, don’t keep doing it! Teach them that it is OK to QUIT and pursue another dream! I didn’t discover my true calling and purpose until I was in my 50’s. And, frankly, it continues to evolve all the time! So, please encourage them to pursue their dreams…all of them!

Talk to Them Like People

Don’t have a different way of communicating with your kids than you do with anybody else! Talk to them and treat them with the same level of respect as you would anyone. When you do, they will feel seen, heard, appreciated, acknowledged, and feel SAFE telling you anything! If you judge them, restrict them, worry more about what other people think than them, they will go into “self-protection mode” and shut off in some way. You may have given them life, but you were the conduit, the vessel. They are the ones that chose to come, and they have their own path and purpose. Encourage them, support them, give them freedom and room to safely express who they are and what they want. (Of course, within reason…nothing dangerous to anyone or themselves.) The best way is to talk to them like the PEOPLE they are.

Lead by Example

Words don’t teach. Action does. Children start modeling the adults surrounding them at around age 7. They are watching you…even into adulthood. Pursue YOUR dreams, don’t be afraid to quit or make changes if something isn’t working for you, and go after what YOU want. If you don’t, you teach them that their dreams don’t matter and that they need to put other people’s needs above theirs. You may be raising your eyebrows at me right now, and that’s ok. I will tell you first hand that the relationship with my children got richer and deeper when I went after my own dreams, picked up and moved cross country and reinvented my life. They were watching, they were paying attention, and now, they are both strong, independent young adults who are both pursuing their dreams without any fear of failure. They KNOW they’ll be ok. That is such a good feeling! We think we’re protecting them and helping them, but we are not! We hold them back and teach them to be fearful when we don’t go after our own dreams.

Our younger generation is our future. Part of living intentionally, the I HAVE TODAY way, is living in and owning our power. By raising confident, empowered kids, there’s less insecurity, more self-worth, and greater levels of happiness and fulfillment! These are all good things!