I was interviewing Forbes Riley for the World Manifestation Summit on her definition of manifest and how the power of manifestation has contributed to Forbes’ massive success. She told me that the reason for her success is by going after whatever she wanted and never asking anybody for permission to do anything. Now, that is powerful. I know there have been times in my life where I felt like I needed permission to do something that I thought would make me happy. Fortunately, those days are long behind me.
What about you? Do you seek other people’s approval and blessing before you make any decisions? Now, I’m not talking about ‘discussing’ things with your spouse or partner. I’m talking about you wanting to say, “yes” to something, but someone else tells you, “no.” So, you don’t do something based on what someone else’s opinion is, which leaves you feeling bad.
No one is going to give you permission to live your life!
You need to grant it to yourself! Here are three reasons why:
No one else is walking in your footsteps
Whatever the decision is…to marry someone, to change jobs, to have children, to leave a relationship, to go back to school, to convert religions, to quit something…YOU are the one that decides. This is YOUR life! Therefore, the opinions of others come from their perspective, not yours. It’s not their fault…they only know what they know. They can’t truly know what will make YOU happy.
The only opinion I ever listen to is from someone who has done exactly what I want to do and has paved the way and learned the lessons. As Greg Reid has stated, “Successful people seek counsel, where the failures listen to opinion.” If someone hasn’t done what you want to do, then their opinion is based on ignorance. Why would you need to seek their permission or approval to do something they haven’t done?
Don’t put yourself in a position to say ”I should have”
“Shoulda, coulda, woulda” is probably one of the worst expressions ever uttered. Nobody ever wants to feel like that! Regrets that leave you feeling like this and saying those words are the result of you doing something to please someone else instead of doing what was right for you. In my book, “I Have Today: Find Your Passion, Purpose & Smile…Finally!” I have a chapter on “Being Selfish in a Really Good Way.” Being selfish is good! What’s bad is doing, or NOT doing, something you really wanted that you may regret later.
It helps to build your confidence
Strong decision-making skills will bring you more of what you want in life much quicker than anything else! But, it takes confidence to be decisive. When you procrastinate or go back and forth on decisions, it’s a sign of low self-confidence. So many people are afraid to make a “mistake.” Here’s the reality…mistakes will happen! Nothing and no one is perfect! We are not supposed to be! The only way to learn is to try and do. The more you try and do, the more you learn, then the better your decision-making skills become, which leads to greater levels of self-confidence! Soon, you won’t even consider asking another person for permission to do anything. You’ll get so good at it!
Give yourself permission to live your life on your terms. Only you know what makes you happy. Go for it…permission granted!
LOVE IT!: I LOVE BEING IN CHARGE OF MY LIFE!
THANK IT!: I AM SO GRATEFUL FOR MY DECISION-MAKING ABILITIES!
BRING IT!: I GRANT MYSELF PERMISSION TO DO WHATEVER I FEEL CALLED TO DO!
Quote: “Give yourself permission to live a big life. Step into who you are meant to be. Stop playing small. You’re meant for great things.” – Unknown
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