Painful experiences from your past can have a ripple effect on how you “show up” in your life.
I recently interviewed JuliAnn Stitick, Personal Brand Expert, on my show, “I Have Today with Diane Forster.” JuliAnn is one of those women that is completely put together and always looks perfect. That was not always the way. After overcoming childhood molestation, she practiced forgiveness as her means to take back her power. Now, she works with predominantly female entrepreneurs to bring out their best, their purpose and allow them to be seen as the radiant women they are.
Any time I’ve ever felt “less than” in my life, it was because I was giving my power away to someone else. Here’s what the reality is…when you give your power away to someone else because of feelings of self-doubt, the other person is having feelings of self-doubt, too. They’re just projecting them in a dominant, controlling way because that’s what they need to do to feel powerful. As hard as that may seem to be, that is what’s happening. It’s a yin-yang, push-pull, dominant-subservient dynamic, but the underlying emotion is feelings of self-doubt.
I’ve written before about how to get out of your own way. Now, let’s take that a bit further. If you want to learn how to get over your self-doubt and learn how to be seen, let’s look at three ways to create more awareness.
Realize You Are Not Alone
Everyone has feelings of self-doubt. There’s comfort in knowing that. We all have times when we feel less confident than other times. Remember that fact the next time you feel like you are the only one in the world who might be feeling doubtful about yourself.
Power Poses and Mantras Help Boost Confidence
It may seem crazy, but power poses and power mantras help boost your confidence and get you over feelings of self-doubt. Before you enter any situation where you may be feeling uneasy or apprehensive, do something first to boost you! Do the “Wonder Woman” pose, or say a mantra such as “Why Am I So Confident and Empowered?” You can also watch or listen to something uplifting or motivational that will lift your self-confidence. My go-to power tool is that I always say to myself before entering any situation, “I am the biggest, brightest energy in the room.” That is a powerful mantra, and it has served me so well in so many situations. It has contributed to many amazing manifestations in my life. Try it for yourself!
Put Your Focus on Others and Take It Away from You
One of the quickest ways to get rid of feelings of self-doubt is to show up for someone else. When you move the attention away from you and focus on helping someone else, you immediately feel better, more confident, more powerful, and you’re seen by that person as someone they can trust and open up to. That is one of the best feelings in the world! So, remove the focus from you and put it on someone else.
You are meant to be seen. You’re meant to be seen, heard, appreciated and acknowledged. You have gifts and talents that no one else possesses. But, if you hide behind a veil of self-doubt, we can’t see them and appreciate them. It’s time to step into the limelight of your greatness.
I HAVE TODAY…to overcome my feelings of self-doubt and shine bright like I’m meant to!
Quote: “Turning pro is a mindset. If we are struggling with fear, self-sabotage, procrastination, self-doubt, etc., the problem is, we’re thinking like amateurs. Amateurs don’t show up. Amateurs crap out. Amateurs let adversity defeat them. The pro thinks differently. He shows up, he does his work, he keeps on truckin’, no matter what.” – Steven Pressfield