Are the people you’re spending time with lifting you up or bringing you down? It is my belief that every one of us needs four things…to be seen, heard, appreciated and acknowledged. We have a hard enough time quieting the mindset monster that lives in our heads without spending any extra energy being surrounded by those who make us feel bad about ourselves. That is why it is so important to have loving, supportive, like-minded people in your life.
Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Who are you spending your time with? Do they believe in you? Do they lift you up? Do they help you when you need it?
Here’s a biggie…do they judge you? I used to be so judgemental…for no reason! I’m not sure where it came from or how it happened exactly, but I’m not judging or blaming anyone for it. I’m owning it! It was my own insecurities and the places I needed to LIKE and love myself more. However, during my reinvention, I learned there was no place or room for me to judge anyone…including me. It wasn’t anyone’s fault, just their perception. That said, if you don’t feel good around someone, then you might want to rethink spending time with them. Life is too short and time is too precious.
Here are three ways to help you find more like-minded people in your life:
It’s OK to Walk Away
Reason, Season, Lifetime…you’ve heard this before. Some people are meant to be in your life for a reason, a season, or your lifetime. Breaking off relationships can be scary. But, if you don’t get rid of the old, you don’t create room for the new. Whether it’s a lover, a friend, a boss, a family member, it doesn’t matter. If you can’t fix it or make it work for YOU, then get out of it and stay away. That will open up space for richer, more fulfilling relationships to step in.
Learn How to Say No
Do you have a hard time saying “no” to people? Do you worry that you’ll hurt someone’s feelings? How’s that working out for YOU? In this day and age with social media and connection to everyone on the entire planet, there is ALWAYS something to do and someone vying for your time. This is where you need to learn to be very selective with your precious time and only do things that you want to do with people you want to do it with! In my book, “I HAVE TODAY: Find Your Passion, Purpose and Smile…Finally!” I talk about how to graciously say, ‘no” by setting healthy boundaries. Remember, you don’t get that time back…ever. Learning how to politely say “no” will allow space for more “yes” opportunities with like-minded people you enjoy being around!
Ask for Help
Grow your network of support…in business and in life…by asking for help and support. I learned this from my friend and mentor, Berny Dorhmann, Chairman of CEO Space International. He taught me about the importance of collaboration, cooperation, and the mastermind.
Ask for introductions and connections. If you’re looking for love, tell your like-minded people you’re interested in meeting someone special and you’re open to being in a relationship. These people love and support you and will go out of their way to help you make it happen! The same goes for your business. Ask for help and support in finding the right clients and resources to help you grow your business. That’s collaboration…not competition…and like-minded people will get that and will not be intimidated by it. Having like-minded people around you makes it much easier to ask for help, too! It’s way less intimidating!
One last thing to note…we are all magnetic attractors, so if you’re attracting people into your life that are not supportive, that is something worth exploring within you. Once you see it, you can’t not see it. It’s in that moment that you get to decide to change it. Like-minded mentors and friends will help. You don’t need to do it alone. Start attracting more like-minded people in your life.
LOVE IT!: I LOVE MY SUPPORTIVE COMMUNITY!
THANK IT!: I AM GRATEFUL FOR ALL THE LIKE-MINDED PEOPLE IN MY LIFE!
BRING IT!: I FEEL SO EMPOWERED BEING SURROUNDED BY SO MUCH LOVE AND SUPPORT!
Quote: “Spend time with those you love. One of these days you will either say, ‘I wish I had,’ or, ‘I’m glad I did.’” – Zig Ziglar