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You Are Not Alone…Ever! How to tap into your intuition.

March 20, 2018 // by Diane Forster

How To Tap Into Your Intuition

Do you ever get the feeling that someone is watching you? Or, you glimpse something out of the corner of your eye and turn suddenly, but realize there’s nothing there? Or, is there? Hmmm. I’ve got news for you…there is.

You’ve heard it before…we’re all energy. We’re all part of the collective consciousness that is universal energy, and there is no separation. There is only oneness. So, if you believe that, which I wholeheartedly do, then we are all connected. The physical and the non-physical are inextricably intertwined together, leaving no one or nothing out of the equation.

My favorite line from my favorite childhood cartoon, “Underdog,” was – “There’s no need to fear! Underdog is here!” Well, there truly is NOTHING to fear! In fact, life becomes much more fun when you understand that the only universal condition is love! What that means is you are SURROUNDED and ENVELOPED in love…ALWAYS! Doesn’t that feel good?

Now that you know that you are not alone, or you’re reminded of this love, here are three ways to fully embrace this in your everyday, human experience:

Start testing your sixth sense

We are all born with the same level of intuition…the ability to acquire knowledge without proof or understanding how the knowledge was acquired. Do you ever answer the question, “how do you know that?” with “I don’t know, I just know.” Well, you do! That’s you trusting your intuition because the collective consciousness is communicating with you and your inner being.

So, start dialing that up, baby! You can, and should, tune into your intuition for every decision you need to make. By the way, the very first thought you get IS the right answer. Not sure about that job, don’t take it. Get a bad feeling about that guy, don’t date him. Have an instant connection with someone, explore it and deepen the relationship. Then, watch how much easier your life runs! Ease up on the logic, and tune in to your posse’s guidance! You’re getting your answers ALL DAY LONG!

Start talking to your deceased relatives and friends

My mother passed away in 1996. She’s been “gone” a long time physically. But, I still have a relationship with her and call upon her wisdom and guidance constantly. When I tell you she shows up, that’s an understatement! She’s creative. She goes out of her way to communicate with me and give me answers. It’s gotten to the point that I just laugh now. I ask her fun questions, like, “So, how are you going to show up next time, Mom?” I am always amazed at the way she chooses to get me messages…people, songs, books, pictures, and (now) she’s even coming through on videos. She’s got such a funny sense of humor!

My advice is to start talking to your deceased loved ones because they are trying so hard to come through with messages of love and support. As stated above, the only universal emotion is love. Therefore, it does not matter who they were or how they behaved when they were alive, they are purely positive, energetic love now. They’ve returned to the same energy they were before they came here. (I know you’re asking me right now, “how do you know that?” Of course, my answer is, “I don’t know, I just know.”)

Start asking every day, “Show me the quickest, most fun way to all I want with harm to no one and nothing”

This will blow your mind! The universe cannot help but deliver abundance to you! Look at all the abundance it delivers everywhere…millions of stars, raindrops, grains of sand, blades of grass, galaxies!

But, here are two important keys:

Make sure you are clear about what you want. Be as specific as you can be. The universe doesn’t understand the abstract. Don’t just say, “I want to be happy.” Instead, say, “I am now happy that I work in a field that I love, that brings me joy and satisfaction, using my unique skills and gifts, and pays me handsomely.” See the difference?
Make sure you’re READY if it’s what you really want! You’ll get it faster than you think…trust me! So, be sure you’re ready to embrace what’s coming.

The caveat “with harm to no one and nothing” is important. It’s like a pinch for good measure…it can’t hurt to add that.

Don’t feel fearful of “ghosts” or something bad happening. Embrace God, your angels, guides, saints, higher power, oneness, collective consciousness – and feel the power of the LOVE pouring all over you! And, one final note, remember to feel blessed and lucky that you are never alone. You are surrounded by so much love and abundance. It feels like a warm blanket. Mmmm.

Affirmation Statements:

LOVE IT!: I LOVE FEELING THE PRESENCE OF SO MUCH LOVE AND SUPPORT!

THANK IT!: I AM GRATEFUL FOR ALL MY ANGELS AND GUIDES ALONG THIS JOURNEY!

BRING IT!: I FEEL EMPOWERED KNOWING THAT I’M NEVER TRULY ALONE!

With Love,

Diane

Quote: “If you knew who walked beside you at all times, on the path that you have chosen, you could never experience fear or doubt again.” – Wayne Dyer

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4 Steps to Help YourSELF with Depression and Suicidal Thoughts

February 16, 2017 // by Diane Forster

I just hosted a webinar on Suicide and Depression, and my journey out of my unhappy life to living an Empowered, Purposeful, Authentic Life…living on my terms, focused on my goals, dreams and desires. My journey back to myself and self-empowerment is what I teach at I HAVE TODAY.

What I learned in preparing for the webinar was how high the number of suicides were for “middle-aged” people. Ages 45-64 was the highest age group. I guess it makes sense…I’m in that age group, and I know EXACTLY how it feels. It turns out that this age group suffers the most because it seems that the depression dates all the way back to the teen years. There were emotional problems that were never addressed or healed from, and they’ve been carrying that pain around all these years. Piled on top of that are the changes that happen in mid-life…higher percentage of divorces, mid-life crises, health factors, becoming empty nesters, changes in career, caring for elderly family members…it’s a time of massive transitions. Those transitions can be devastating to those who don’t have the self-esteem, self-confidence, self-worth tools they need to overcome the obstacles they face. It becomes overwhelming, and they feel like there’s no way out. The pain can’t be ignored and it can’t be masked.

The “I HAVE TODAY” System will definitely help with finding your passion and purpose, creating a life of love, joy, fulfillment, peace and happiness. If you want to find out more information about it, please click HERE

In the meantime, I wanted to share 4 Steps to Helping YourSELF TODAY:

Focus on Your SPIRITUALITY

Implement a meditation practice into your life. Even if you start with only 5 minutes a day and work yourself up to 15-20 minutes a day, you will start to feel inner peace. I tell this to everyone…you MUST meditate. For me, it’s like breathing…I need it. You can use my Rainbow Breath Meditation practice or my Rainbow Ribbon of Healing practice. Either one is great for every level of meditation practice. If you don’t, please find one that works for you.

Focus on Your PHYSICALITY

You need to move your body! Get out and walk, go for a bike ride, go hiking, start dancing around the house…anything! Moving our bodies elevates our heart rate and increases our release of endorphins, which boosts our moods and creates a positive feeling in our bodies. Even if you don’t feel like it, force yourself to do it. Once you start doing it on a consistent basis, you’ll start to NEED to do it. It’s a good addiction!

Focus on Your CONNECTIVITY

Human interaction is critical when you are feeling depressed. You need to be with other people. Make sure you have someone to reach out to. If you don’t have a friend, sister, brother, co-worker, or anyone you can turn to, then look into joining meet up groups with similar interests of yours, go to different churches to seek community. Do whatever you need to do to build up a support system for you.

Focus on Your MENTALITY

Our mindsets are so powerful. Once we reach the age of 5 years old, our subconscious no longer has the capacity to not judge or have opinions. Once that happens, we are programmed by the events and circumstances in our lives. We have emotions and feelings associated with those events. Things like being told “we’re not good enough,” “we’ll never be rich,” “wealth is for other people,” and the like. Even innocent statements with the best intentions have hidden meanings to us because we naturally go into the mode of believing the worst about ourselves first because it’s so much easier for us to believe. Well, there’s a solution for this old paradigm programming. It’s one of the 12 Laws of the Universe. The Law of Polarity states that “we suppress and transform undesirable thoughts by concentrating on the opposite pole.” That means that we can CHANGE our association to any EVENT that occurred in our lives by thinking about and speaking about the event from the opposite perspective. Our subconscious cannot tell the difference between a lie and the truth. So, we can tell ourselves ANYTHING we want, and as long as we believe it, we will change the effects of the event…creating a new, better outcome. I know this might be confusing, so look up more on the power of this Law. It’s incredible. It’s what allows me to see the gift in EVERY single moment of my life. I know that when a negative event occurs, there’s an equally positive event that will occur. POWERFUL!

One last point I’d like to make is that nothing is “outside” of us. We all possess the power and skills to help ourselves. Yes, we need help and support, but we make the DECISION to reach out for help. We make the DECISION that we don’t want to suffer anymore and that we CAN do what it takes to create the life we WANT to live. It’s not weak to ask for help. In fact, it shows tremendous strength. We ALL need help.

If you or someone you know is suffering with depression and has suicidal thoughts, they need help and support right away! I can help. Reach out to me at Diane@IHaveToday.com for support and guidance. You need to know that you are not alone, that you are much bigger and better than what’s happening to you right now, that you are SO WORTHY of all the HAPPINESS your heart can handle, and on the opposite side of those feelings is EXTRAORDINARY BLISS…just waiting for you!

Quote: “Sometimes, reaching out and taking someone’s hand is the beginning of a journey. At other times, it is allowing another to take yours.” ― Vera Nazarian

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Are you “Huggable?”

February 2, 2017 // by Diane Forster

I had an interesting thing happen to me yesterday. I was shooting a video late in the afternoon, when all of a sudden, the doorbell rang. As I approached the door, I could see a man standing about 15 feet away from the door, looking into the glass panel as I started to open the door. For a brief moment, I thought “Isn’t that weird? He just rang the bell a moment ago and he’s already walking away.”

It wasn’t until I opened the door that it all started to make sense. Standing before me was a beautiful little girl with a notebook in her hands. She had long, straight, blonde hair, beautiful blue eyes and a warm smile. I said a cheery “Hello” to her with a bit of curiosity in my voice, even though I knew all too well what was coming next. She said “Hello, my name is Erin, and I am selling Girl Scout Cookies. Would you like to buy some?” I stepped outside to greet them both, the man with her now standing a little bit closer. It turns out that he is her grandfather taking her around the neighborhood to sell cookies.

I replied to Erin “Of course. I’d love to buy some. I’ll take two boxes.” As she wrote down the information in her notebook, her grandfather and I introduced ourselves to each other. Still fairly new living here, I have not had the chance to meet many of the neighbors yet.

We started asking the usual questions you ask when you first meet someone to get to know them better. We stood there for about ten minutes. What took me by surprise was that the entire time her grandfather, Tim, and I were talking, Erin kept coming over to me and throwing her arms around my waist to hug me. She must have done it about a half a dozen times. Even remembering it now and writing this brings a tear to my eyes. What a beautiful expression of love from a third grade little girl to me, a total stranger.

I stopped talking whenever she did it so I could smile at her and hug her back. I wanted her to know that I acknowledged the gestger and appreciated it. It’s such a simple thing, but it got me thinking. We all emit our energy, whether we are consciously aware of it or not. And, others feel it! This little girl had such an open heart and warm energy, and she could feel mine too. As I stood there talking to Tim, she stood there, staring at me. I could literally feel her love for me. So, she did what every kid does, and what every adult loses the ability to do…she expressed herself without any fear of being judged or rejected. That’s a priceless gift.

As we finished our conversation and made arrangements for the two of them to deliver the cookies at another time, we all said good-bye to one another. She hugged me one last time. When I got back into the house, I realized the sun was already setting so I would not be able to shoot anymore video that day. The opportunity was gone. I had lost the light. But, what I gained was so much better. The warm, genuine hugs of a child. That was totally worth it!

Being someone who practices and teaches intentional living, it’s those moments in life that we need to honor, embrace and remember the most. I love when they are so unexpected such as that moment was. Maybe part of the energy I was emitting yesterday was that I could really use a hug. I mean, couldn’t we all use one? I hope you get hugged today, as many times as you need one. I’m giving you a virtual one right now…I hope you can feel it!

Quote: A hug is like a boomerang…you get it back right away. ~ Bil Keane

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How High We Rise is Based on How Low We Fall

January 11, 2017 // by Diane Forster

The lowest moment in my life became the most powerful moment! We don’t know how strong we are and how high we can rise until we see how low we can go.

For some of us, it takes drastic things to occur…like a suicide attempt. For many of us, it doesn’t take anything nearly that drastic. But, for me…that’s what it took.

I allowed myself to live in an auto-pilot, unfulfilled, robotic lifestyle for FAR too many years. I allowed myself to be in an unhappy, unfulfilling marriage and relationship WAY TOO LONG. I say that I “allowed” myself because I am the one who’s in charge of my life…no one else. I am the one who was the enabler. I was the one that made a DECISION to stay…to keep trying. My ex did as well, but I am not responsible for his actions. I am only responsible for mine, and I am the one who decides about my life.

It took a very dark, drastic event to get me to finally wake the heck up! And I am SO glad I did! I have NEVER felt better, happier, more fulfilled in my life than I do at this very moment! And…each and every day keeps getting BETTER and BETTER!!!! I LOVE LIFE so much! I love how every day of my life is different than the day before! It’s interesting, it’s adventurous, it’s exciting, it’s wonderful!

Had I not gone through all of that darkness, I would have NEVER known how much LIGHT was waiting on the other side of it for me!

Everything I went through opened me up. I discovered that there is nothing “outside” of me when it comes to determining my happiness. It’s all an “inside job.” I discovered how EASY, FUN, and EXCITING life can be! I learned that I am limited by NOTHING, and I am capable of ANYTHING! By the way, so are YOU!!! I hope you know that! I am not special, and I’m no different than anybody else. I’m just more aware than most of how powerful we all are and that we are only limited by our limiting beliefs. I no longer have limiting beliefs, and if one shows up every now and then, I kick it to the curb!

Part of the reason I can live so joyously and happily every day is because I’ve learned how to see the GIFT in every single thing that shows up in my life. It is a SKILL I developed. I was not always this way, but I learned how to be this way. Once you learn that skill, you will be living your life in a whole new, richer way. It’s part of what I teach…how to find the gift in everything.

So, take a few minutes right now, and look at your life. Look back into your past. Look at the events that are happening now, and happened back then, that you might be holding on to some negative emotions about. Are those events STILL showing up in your life, perhaps masked as something else? Could it be that you are still keeping old pain and old memories alive in your current TODAY? If that’s the case, see if you can turn that memory into something POSITIVE. See if you can find the GIFT in it and realize that you are actually better off today BECAUSE of that event.

Let that “LOW” point ALLOW you to see how “HIGH” you can rise from it.

Quote: Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. – Eckhart Tolle

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I was JOLTED in the Other Direction

December 13, 2016 // by Diane Forster

Let me pick up where I left off in my last blog post… The signs show up as a whisper. Then, the whispers get louder. Then, finally, if that’s not enough, which it turns out it wasn’t for me, the JOLT comes. Apparently, I needed that JOLT to pivot me in the other direction.

After that night in June when I attempted to take my life, I called a therapist immediately the next day and said “I need help. I am changing my life.” That began months of counseling and working to build up my strength and resources to be able to leave the marriage and go on with my life.

Several months had passed. Life in our home was so unbearable. My ex was becoming more and more distant, and frankly, dismissive and rude to me. Even my friends noticed it. One friend said to me, after he walked out of the house to go run an errand, while she and I were sitting alone together, “What is wrong? Why is he so angry? Why does he talk to you like that?” I burst into tears and said “I don’t know.”

Well, it was only a few weeks later that I discovered why. I found out that he had been having an affair and was in love with someone else. Hence, the JOLT. When I discovered it, I was enraged! I was so angry. His guilt over it combined with his inability to leave me had him taking it out ON me! I was FURIOUS! But…I was so EMPOWERED!!! That moment was the moment that everything shifted for me! I got my power back! I knew in that instant that I was going to be okay…in fact, I was going to be BETTER than okay. I found MYSELF and MY SELF-WORTH in that moment. What a GIFT!!!

I look back on that time now with no emotion attached to it, other than love and forgiveness. I worked diligently to heal my pain, own my part in the demise of the relationship, and move on with my life. I have completely forgiven him, and myself, for mistakes we made in our marriage. I know that, even though there were things that could have been handled differently, that both he and I did the best we could with what we were both capable of at the time.

That JOLT was such a blessing for me. It was the peak emotional experience I needed to pivot in the other direction…from fearful and weak to empowered and strong. It was because of that experience that I am where I am today…SO happy, healthy, in love, in joy, in peace, in expansion, in constant learning mode, so fulfilled living each day of my life with intention and purpose. He and his new wife seem happy in their life together, and let’s face it…if I ever truly loved him, which I did, then I wish him all the love and happiness in the world. I really, really do. Now, that’s healthy…wouldn’t you agree?

Our gifts sometimes come disguised as pain first. Oftentimes, when I’m experiencing a challenging time in my life, I’ll ask myself “I’m not quite sure what the “gift” is yet, but I’m sure I’ll be shown down the road sometime, right?” as I look up to the sky for answers. You know what…I ALWAYS receive the answer. I just trust, and the answer comes. I work with clients all the time that are hanging on to so much anger and rage, and I explain to them that they are the ONLY ones holding on to the negative emotion. They are the only ones keeping their pain alive!

We must know that everything that shows up in our lives is for our highest, greatest good…always! When we know that, REALLY know that, we process through painful experiences much more quickly and heal so much faster.

Sometimes, the experience is slow in coming. Other times, it’s a JOLT. Whichever way it shows up…like I teach in my book I HAVE TODAY and in the I HAVE TODAY SYSTEM…you’ve got to learn to LOVE IT! THANK IT! BRING IT!

Quote: Painful as it may be, a significant emotional event can be the catalyst for choosing a direction that serves us, and those around us, more effectively. Look for the learning. – Louisa May Alcott

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Having No Self-Worth as a Woman is Debilitating!

December 7, 2016 // by Diane Forster

When I look back on how I used to be, I looked “All Together” on the outside. But, on the inside, I was suffering. The lack of self-worth I had for myself was debilitating, and I was feeling smaller and smaller every day. I felt like I had no voice in my marriage. I felt like who I was and how I felt didn’t matter. Not because it was physically abusive or I was fearful for my life, or anything like that. But because of the emptiness and loneliness in the marriage.

I grew up in a household with a mother and father who loved each other, but they didn’t openly express their love for each other. There was nothing demonstrative there, so I grew up thinking that’s what marriage looked like. Even though, deep down, I craved so much more.

As my marriage continued to get worse, and I continued to be unhealthy and deeply unhappy, I knew I had to figure out a way to get out of the relationship. However, because I suffered such fear, doubt, insecurity, and low self-worth as a woman, I didn’t think I had the means or the tools to walk away. I was so strong professionally, and I rocked motherhood! As a woman, I was broken inside.

I am a very high achiever, and I didn’t want to feel like a “failure.” So, I kept trying and trying to make the marriage work. I kept saying to myself that “it’ll get better when ‘X’ happens”; or, “It’ll get better when ‘Y’ happens.” But, try and try as I did (he did too on some level), it never seemed to get better.

After my attempted suicide, which was the LOWEST moment of my life, I knew I had to get strong. I had to get help. I had to change my life. I had to hit the bottom so LOW before I realized that is was okay to ask for help. It took that experience to allow me to feel open enough to be vulnerable, to be scared, to admit it to someone, to allow myself to let others in.

Yet, even then, with the support I was receiving and the help I was getting, I was still too scared to walk away. I was too afraid that I’d end up alone. I knew there was nothing left between us, but it was the devil I knew versus the devil I didn’t. Until…I couldn’t ignore the signs any longer.

The signs show up as a whisper. Then, the whispers get louder. Then, finally, if that’s not enough, which it turns out it wasn’t for me, the JOLT comes. Apparently, I needed that JOLT to pivot me in the other direction.

I’ll write all about the JOLT in my next blog….

Quote: Your level of self-worth shows up everywhere of your life…in romance, your relationships, your appearance, your career, your bank account. The higher it is, the richer you are in all areas. – Diane Forster

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I Couldn’t Wake Up Another Day Feeling So Alone

December 1, 2016 // by Diane Forster

It was Saturday, June 25, 2011. It started out as a typical weekend afternoon for us. Errands, sports, carpooling, going over to some friends’ house for a bar-b-que. Our lives were completely centered around the kids and their lives and activities. We barely even looked at each other anymore. Life was on autopilot. We looked like the perfect happy family to the outside world. Inside, I was imploding. My soul and spirit were chipping away more and more each day.

After the fighting started in the car on the way home, then continued when we entered the house, I went into my bathroom and locked the door…

I couldn’t take it anymore. I had not received love and support from my ex in years! I felt so alone and isolated. It was so EMOTIONALLY DEBILITATING. I said to myself, “I can’t wake up another day feeling THIS ALONE!”

The pain was so palpable. I had two full bottles of prescription pills in my hand. Apparently, God had other plans for me. I talk about it here in the video, but I also write all about what happened that night in the bathroom in my book, and I tell the story in the I Have Today System.

So many people hear my story and are so shocked that it’s ME telling it! They can’t believe someone as strong and smart and so “together” could have gotten to that point. Trust me, some days it’s hard for even me to believe. What I’ve discovered is this… no one is immune to getting to a point where they feel they have no way out. We are paralyzed by FEAR! We worry what others will think or say about us. We worry that we’ll appear “weak” if we actually let the cat out of the bag and shout “I’m So Unhappy! I want to FEEL GOOD, and FEEL LOVED, and be EXCITED by my life!” We put on brave faces and smile at everyone, we give the generic answer that we’re “fine” or “great” when people ask how we’re doing…without getting into any real depth of emotional conversation. That’s an incredibly lonely place to be. So, it doesn’t matter who you are, how you were raised, what your situation is, ANYONE can get to the point where I was on that day.

I thank God constantly for his intervention in the bathroom that night, and I am following his instructions down to the letter! That moment was the wake-up call I so desperately needed to take ACTION to CHANGE MY LIFE! That moment was a cherished GIFT for me. Because of that night, I went on a journey to discover ME, and what a rewarding trip it was! I now help so many others who feel as isolated and alone as I did, and I help empower them. I shine the light on their strengths, their gifts and their light. I am living my life on PURPOSE, and it feels so GOOD!

When I look back at that time of my life, I realize that I NEEDED to experience that. How else could I share my SUCCESS Story if I didn’t experience the deepest, darkest despair first? I bless that moment.

Oh, and I NEVER wake up feeling alone…EVER! Another cherished GIFT.

Quote: At the innermost core of all loneliness is a deep and powerful yearning for union with one’s lost self. – Brendan Behan

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What Are You Waiting For?

October 20, 2016 // by Diane Forster

Have you lost your passion and purpose?Maybe you haven’t discovered it yet.Are you living the kind of life you’ve always dreamed of?If you’re not, I’ve got a story for you…

My name is Diane Forster, and welcome to I Have Today. Let me take you back about five years ago in my life. I was in a very unhappy marriage, I was feeling lost and alone, I had no passion in my life, I was doing whatever I had to do just to get through the day, and my soul was chipping away more and more each day.

One night, when the pain was too unbearable, I attempted to take my life. Through an act of God, my life was spared. That moment was the pivotal moment in my life that “woke” me up and led me down the path to changing my life. I am now a very happy, very healthy, very fulfilled woman, and it is my mission in life to have all women feel as empowered and fulfilled as I do.

After that night, I got some help. A series of events happened that ended that marriage, and I went on a journey to rediscover me.

Who am I? What do I want? What is my purpose? How can I serve? Why am I here?

I got the answers to all my questions. That’s the funny thing about asking the universe (or God, or Jesus, or whomever you believe in) whatever it is you need to ask…if you’re paying attention, you’ll get your answers…Loud and Clear!

I did some deep digging into myself…personal development, spiritual awakening, self-help, you name it. After immersing myself with some of the greatest teachers and leaders, past and present, I discovered my own techniques and processes for living each day of my life to its fullest. Now, I’m sharing that all with you.

My book, I Have Today: Find Your Passion, Purpose and Smile…Finally! was released in September and is a best seller. Now, my online program, the “I Have Today System” is available as well. 90 days to change your life! Imagine yourself feeling more confident, more empowered, more decisive, with more happiness, joy, love and fulfillment…for YOU and everyone else in your life! Doesn’t that sound wonderful? Well, it’s possible, I promise you.

I Have Today says it all. Our pasts are behind us, and our futures are unknown. Our lives are right now…TODAY.

Let me guide you and help you return to the powerful, happy, fulfilled woman you were born to be. You have no idea how many gifts you have to offer the world, and how much the world needs them…and YOU!

Here we go…let’s do this together! I HAVE TODAY to serve you!!!