What is “flow?” No, ladies, I’m not talking about that once a month occurrence that happens to our bodies. I’m referring to the releasing of resistance, negative energy and uninspired action, and allowing your life to unfold each moment of every day and allowing the universe to guide you to everything you want. Whether you realize it or not, the universe it guiding you anyway, but are you paying attention? So, when you learn how to flow and you release the resistance, man… does your life get better! It gets richer, happier, more peaceful, fun, spontaneous, and energized…. It’s incredible! This is truly the way we are supposed to be living.
When I’m working with clients, I help them clear away the blockages and negative talk, emotions and thoughts, and I help them look at things differently than they did before. That process creates massive, rapid results because they follow the processes and they WANT the changes! They don’t want to be “stuck” in patterns any longer…especially in their relationships.
In relationships where there is struggle, 99.99% of the time it is because there is resistance. One or both people is fighting for their viewpoint, and it is ego-based. They are not open-hearted enough or not coming from a heart-centered space to be able to see the other person’s perspective, and that causes a rift and friction. That tension causes the resistance, and there is no way that relationship can flow under those conditions. Therefore, if there was a heightened awareness of FLOW and the way it works, it would make conflict resolution so simple! It would make your communication and connection so deep. The couple would realize it’s not “his way” or “her way.” It’s just “the way.” And the way is flow…let it go and flow…flow towards the easiest, least resistant path.
How can we equate this to our relationships and the way this is working within the universe? Time is only moving in one direction. The water running down the river only goes downstream. That is the way the universe works! So, learning the art of flow is easy to do when you think about that visual. When you’re struggling with a situation, with anyone or anything, you are fighting the flow. You’re letting your ego get in the way. The universe is trying to let it in, but it cannot come to you because you are literally blocking the path of flow.
Flow allows you to release and let go of the outcome of somebody else’s agenda. Flow lets you trust the higher power and trust that it’s all working out for you. Here’s how you can practice it:
Step 1: Close Your Eyes and Imagine It’s Your 80th Birthday
This may seem silly, but try it! Imagine it’s your 80th birthday party. All the people you love are there celebrating you. As you sit there, in love and gratitude, look back on your life. In that moment, you realize that everything you ever wanted has come true for you and you have never needed to worry about anything! All your wishes came true and your life has been such a beautiful journey. You are happier than you’ve ever imagined, and you wish you didn’t waste all that time being worried or upset, or that you didn’t spend any time struggling. HAVE FUN with this exercise and do it as often as you need to! This is a great “go-to” when you feel like you’re struggling with something.
Step 2: Do the Placemat Exercise
This is from “Ask and It Is Given” by Esther and Abraham Hicks. In the back of the book, there are 22 Processes. This is one of them. This is SO MUCH FUN! Take out a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. At the top of the left side write “Things I Want to Do and I Enjoy Doing” and on the right side write “What I want The Universe to Do for Me.” Under your column, write down the things you want to do and enjoy doing, and on the right side, list everything you don’t enjoy doing or you think is hard to do. Make the list on that side of the page as long as you want! Then, let go and FLOW! Let the universe go to work on that list. But, VERY IMPORTANT, you must PAY ATTENTION to all the signs from the universe coming to you…the phone calls you get out of the blue, the songs you hear, the surprises in the mail, the emails you get…all of it! This is a phenomenal practice!!! I use this process to powerfully manifest many things into my life. So, let this work for you!
Step 3: Follow Your Inspired Action and the Point of Least Resistance
This sounds lazy and unproductive, but only do things when you are in INSPIRED ACTION! If you’ve got something you should be doing, but you don’t feel like doing it…instead, you want to read a book, call a friend, take a walk, take a nap…do that instead. Do not do anything important without being in inspired action, because the results will not be good. It won’t be the quality you want it to be, you will struggle with it, it will feel difficult and challenging. Trust me, I have done this before, and the results have not been good. Follow your FLOW and do what you FEEL LIKE doing, and TRUST that the inspiration WILL COME and you will meet your deadline and get done whatever it is you need to get done. This is so easy, yet people don’t do this. They beat themselves up for being “lazy” and “unproductive” which is contrary to the truth.
If you’re not feeling the “flow” the answer should be “no.” So, learning how to follow your flow will guide you to following your bliss. Go with the Flow!
LOVE IT!: I LOVE THE WAY MY LIFE FLOWS WITH EASE.
THANK IT:! I AM GRATEFUL FOR THE GRACEFUL FLOW OF MY LIFE.
BRING IT:! I KNOW HOW TO FLOW, SO ABUNDANCE AND HAPPINESS POUR ALL OVER ME!
Quote: “May what I do flow from me like a river, no forcing and no holding back, the way it si with children.” – Rainer Maria
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As an Intentional Living Expert, I work with many clients on ways to get “unstuck” and to re-invent their lives. I’ve noticed that one subject comes up a lot is their disappointment in someone else in their lives. When we put our expectations on others, that is asking them to live the way WE want them to live instead of the way THEY want to live. It is certainly okay to put our own expectations upon ourselves, but it is not okay to put them on others. We need to stop expecting others to act the way you want them to.
I am not referring to your boss who has expectations for you to show up on time for work and to perform your job, or as a parent to expect your children to obey certain house rules. What I am referring to is behavioral expectations we create within ourselves on how we want others to behave.
Let me give you an example.
A client of mine was dating a man that she really cared for. He really cared for her as well. There were many things “right” about him, except she didn’t like how frugal he was, he didn’t make a lot of money, and money wasn’t very important to him. For her, money was very important. She likes to buy nice things, she loves to spend money and in her words “enjoy her life” in that way. It became a big problem in their relationship when it came time to possibly move in together.
The question is: Is it up to HIM to meet HER financial needs? The answer is no. There are three options available:
- She can make more money herself to afford her lifestyle.
- She can accept him as he is and learn to live on a smaller income.
- She can end the relationship and find someone who will fill that need for her.
It’s perfectly fine to want what you want. But, that does not mean that someone else will want it, too. Expectations of others has ended many, many relationships! I could share countless stories that I hear from my clients. Almost every one of their “issues” in their current or past relationships has been related to having a level of expectation from someone else to be more like them.
Think about where this is “showing up” in your life. Do you have certain expectations in your relationships with your spouse, your parents, your kids, your lover, your friends? Have you had any relationships end because of unrealistic expectations?
Here are three strategies to drop your expectations of others so that you can feel more joy in these relationships, and in your life in general:
Begin to Notice When You Feel Disappointed
When you start to observe your feelings of disappointment, pay attention to WHY you are feeling that way. What was the event that occurred for you? You will start to notice a pattern where you have expectations of others. TAKE NOTE OF WHO AND WHY.
Ask Yourself Why You Need That
This is really powerful! Become very curious as to why you wanted it. What you’ll begin to see is that the reason you wanted it is because you want to know that “you matter,” as Oprah Winfrey states.
That is one of the things she knows for sure. What I know for sure is that we all want to be seen, heard, appreciated and acknowledged. We want to feel valued and validated. Here’s the problem with that…it sets us up for so much disappointment! Even if the person behaves or responds the way you want them to, the first time they don’t, you will feel hurt.
The power must come from WITHIN YOU. A healthy level of self-love will block those feelings of disappointment. When you TRULY love and accept yourself, you know this and understand this.
Practice the EED Process
This powerful process is in my book “I Have Today: Find Your Passion, Purpose and Smile…Finally!”
This 3-step process is one of the most effective tools I’ve created. Emotional Energy Diffuser steps are: Breathe, Think, Praise and here is how it works:
When you start to feel disappointment, take a moment to pause and take a deep breath. We always feel some immediate relief whenever we do this. (Try it right now…take a breath. Don’t you feel a little bit better?)
Next, think for a moment and say to yourself “wait, this has nothing to do with me!” It’s so true! It doesn’t! Someone else’s response or behavior has EVERYTHING to do with them and what they are feeling and experiencing. Therefore, you must learn how to not take it so personally.
Last, think about that person and praise them in your mind by saying to yourself, “they are doing the best they can today. This is all they have to give, and it is enough.”
This process really works! Please start practicing it in all areas of your life and then let me know how it’s working for you!
When you drop your expectations of others, you are going to be surprised and delighted at the level of happiness you start experiencing in your life! Your relationships, your level of connection, your level of self-love and acceptance is going to blow you away! We don’t need others to change to suit our needs or expectations. We just need to love ourselves more and also accept others JUST AS THEY ARE!
LOVE IT!: I LOVE HOW SPECIAL AND POWERFUL I AM!
THANK IT!: I AM GRATEFUL FOR MY SELF-LOVE!
BRING IT!: EVERYONE IS DOING THE BEST THEY CAN, INCLUDING ME!
Quote: “To free us from the expectations of others, to give us back to ourselves – there lies the great, the singular power of self-respect.” – Joan Didion
Are you a multi-tasker? Do you have trouble staying focused on one thing? Do you lose things, break things, forget things? I have good news for you! I can help you stop multi-tasking. In fact, there really is no such thing as multi-tasking. When you think about it, you can truly only be doing one thing at a time. When we multi-task, we are splitting our time between multiple things, but we are only focused on one thing at any given moment. For example, if you eat in front of the television, your attention and focus is going back and forth from the screen to your plate and back again. You’re not fully engaged in either activity. The same holds true for eating at your desk at work.
Another way this shows up in your life is by over estimating how much you can get done, so you try and do several things at once. I reference a story about this in my book I Have Today: Find Your Passion, Purpose and Smile…Finally! Have you ever experienced trying to do too much at once, then you start dropping things, or forgetting things, or losing things? That’s because you’re not supposed to be doing too many things at once. Our brain can’t handle it.
What I learned is when you live in the present moment, and stay present on the task in front of you, you remain calmer, your mind stays clearer, and you can get things done faster and more efficiently. I also learned that it does not matter what the task is…whether it is cooking, doing laundry, paying bills, working out, driving, working…when you focus on what you’re doing and feel gratitude and appreciation for it, the experiences become more pleasurable. When you multi-task, you are spending time in your future and not your NOW!
Here are three ways to become more present in all you do:
Write Down the Areas Where You Struggle the Most
By doing this exercise, you’ll be able to identify your patterns. What will surface for you is that you’ll find the areas of struggle are around the things you least like to do. This is valuable information. It leads into Step 2…
Learn to Appreciate the Tasks You Don’t Like to Do
We all have things that we must do, and some of them are things we really don’t enjoy doing. But, what if you turned that into an opportunity to find some joy in the task? For example, I don’t enjoy doing laundry. To make it more pleasurable, while I’m doing it I think about how lucky I am that I have a washer and dryer, clean running water, how convenient it is to do, and how many people around the world don’t have that. Those thoughts make the experience much more enjoyable.
“Time Block” in Your Calendar and Schedule Everything You Can
This is a great technique! This allows you to be in control of your time. Schedule days and times and make appointments with yourself to do as much as you can think of. That way, when it’s time to do a task, you only need to focus on that task! Time blocking also gives you a deadline to get it done, so there’s no procrastinating. In fact, it becomes a game to get it done faster! For instance, I gave myself a two-hour window to write this blog. I will get it done with time to spare! The sense of accomplishment feels so good!
We can only live each day a moment at a time. And, we don’t get them back. So, you may as well enjoy AS MANY as possible…with both the tasks you enjoy and even the ones you don’t. By staying present, you’ll enjoy every experience more and more. Trust me, your lunch tastes so much better when you sit and relax to eat it. Enjoy the food. Enjoy the experience. Your emails and texts can wait until later.
LOVE IT! I LOVE BEING PRESENT IN ALL I DO!
THANK IT!: I AM GRATEFUL FOR EACH MOMENT!
BRING IT!: I SAVOR EACH AND EVERY MOMENT OF MY LIFE!
Quote: “Mindfulness isn’t difficult, we just need to remember to do it.” – Buddha
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The real four letter word that starts with “F” is… FEAR! Why is there so much fear? What the heck are we all so afraid of??? What are the fears that are keeping you awake at night? Fear of dying? Fear of getting sick? Fear of being alone? Fear of running out of money? Fear of failure? Fear of rejection? Fear of never being good enough? Fear of…..fill in the blank!
In my work with clients, fear is the number one emotion that paralyzes people. Fear causes people to stay in relationships, or jobs, or situations longer than they should because they are afraid of the unknown. Fear keeps people from going after their dreams because they are so afraid to make a mistake. Fear stops people from pursuing what they want because they are so afraid of rejection. This craziness needs to stop!
I used to have many fears as well. I can honestly say that I am now no longer afraid of anything. I do not fear death or illness, going broke, being alone, something happening to my kids or family, what other people think of me. None of it. I was able to lift the veil off of fear and see it for what it really is…an emotion! That’s it! So, when it occasionally surfaces, I remember that…and I CHOOSE to feel a different emotion!
It didn’t happen overnight, but it did happen quicker than I would have expected. Now, I want that to happen for YOU! I want you living without any fear! Like I speak and write about worry, 99.999% of the things we fear NEVER happen! We spend so much time, thought and energy on fears, which means we are living in our future and not our present moment! Let me say it again…this needs to stop!
Here are three steps to help you overcome your fears:
Step 1: Read “Dissolve the Problem” by Richard Dotts
Richard Dotts is a modern day spiritual explorer, and he’s written over 20 books on the science of manifestation and reality creation. This is one of my favorite books because he talks about his three-step process (sound familiar J?) on how dissolve our problems through his process of soften-shift-stay. Essentially, it’s about being in an altered state. This book is a great read, as there are so many wonderful nuggets in it. This book will help you to see that our perceived problems, which cause us to feel fear, aren’t even real!
Step 2: Write down all the things you are afraid of so you can then speak them aloud.
I learned this trick from Sonia Choquette. If we feel fear over something and we don’t express it, then it’s living inside of us. When we speak our fears aloud, we release it from inside ourselves and, in essence, we give it away to the universe. I added the first piece to the process because by sitting and thinking about all the things you feel fear over, you can eliminate all of them at once. I believe in efficiency, so why not get rid of all your fears at once. Then, if you notice new fears or fears you forgot about at another time, just say them aloud. Let them go! There is no need to have that bottled up in you!
Step 3: Change your morning routine and you will change your whole life!
How do you start your day? Do you sleep with your phone next to you and grab it first thing in the morning? Do you jump out of bed and get going right away? Do you mentally get involved in all the responsibilities you need to handle? If this is you, please stop doing that!
Les Brown says the way we spend the first 20 minutes of our day sets us up for success or failure! So, it is crucial that you spend that morning time in a very specific way! I’m going to lay out steps that take longer than 20 minutes, but if 20 minutes is all you can spare to start, that’s good enough. It is my belief that once you begin this morning routine, you’ll look for ways to find more time for yourself. I personally spend two hours on my morning routine! OK, here we go:
- Upon waking up and opening your eyes, stay in bed for at least a minute or two (5 minutes is best) in gratitude and appreciation of your bed, the sleep you got, how safe and warm you are in there, how comfortable it is, how lucky you are to have a bed to sleep in (do you realize how many people around the world will never know that feeling?)
- Once you get out of bed, go use the bathroom then brush your teeth. Put on your morning pot of coffee if that is what you enjoy. But, before drinking it (or tea, or anything you normally drink in the morning) go find a quiet place to sit down and meditate. If you are new to meditation, there’s nothing more to it than sitting still, eyes closed, and breathing in and out. Focus your attention on your breath, and allow yourself to be still. Do this for anywhere from 5-10 minutes in the morning (15-20 minutes is best.) If you want to learn my meditation practice, email me at email@example.com for more information.
- After you meditate, go get yourself your cup of coffee, or tea, or juice and go sit down to write in a journal. Write what you are grateful for, how you want to feel, what you WANT your day to look like, etc. Take control of it…think of only positive things! Get your mind used to doing that practice…focus on positive, NOT negative thoughts. You are a creator, so CREATE WHAT YOU WANT!
- Last, listen to something motivational or inspirational. If you don’t have time to do it at home, listen to it during your commute to wherever you’re going. I love Les Brown, Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar, Lisa Nichols, Wayne Dyer, and many, many others.
What is the purpose of this and how does it relate to fear? This will help with your mindset. When your mindset is positive and upbeat, fear can’t get in there!
You no longer have to be a victim of fear. You can CONTROL your mind and your thoughts, and re-direct them in a much safer, happier direction. Follow these steps and let me know how they work for you! Let’s get you fearlessly living the life of your dreams!
LOVE IT!: I LOVE HOW FEARLESSLY I LIVE EACH DAY!
THANK IT!: I AM GRATEFUL FOR MY FEARLESS ATTITUDE!
BRING IT!: I AM IN CONTROL OF MY EMOTIONS, DECISIONS AND MY LIFE!
Quote: “The eagle has no fear of adversity. We need to be like the eagle and have a fearless spirit of a conqueror!” – Joyce Meyer
Like the drop of water on a calm lake can have an infinite effect on the body of water, so do we! How is this showing up in your life? What is your “ripple effect” on others? What’s the impression you are leaving people with? And, as a result, what are you attracting in to your life based on the energy you are emitting out to the world? Figuring out how to make a better impression is worth exploring.
As spiritual beings having a human experience, our energy fields, and our thoughts and words, are a direct reflection of what shows up in our lives. What we “put out” ripples out into the universe, and those who are on the same vibrational wave will align with it. But, those that don’t can miss “seeing” you altogether.
You want to attract a soul mate? Get that job? Land that account? Win that award? Be accepted into the club? Here are three ways to heighten your awareness on the ripple effect you have and the impression you make.
Set the Intention to Be the Biggest Energy in the Room!
Before you walk into any situation…the board room, the meeting, the date, the classroom, the party, the networking event…take a few moments before you enter the room to become present and then expand your energy and say aloud “I am the biggest, brightest energy in the room.” (If you don’t know how to expand your energy, send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org and put in “Energy Expansion” in the subject line. We can schedule an appointment for me to teach you. This is SO POWERFUL!)
What that does is it creates that desired “ripple effect” as soon as you walk in the room. People can’t help but feel your energy and your presence and notice you. People will be drawn to you and want to interact with you. Ladies, if you are at a singles mixer, the men are going to be drawn to you! Your confidence will be highly elevated and your presence will light up the room!
The purpose…GET NOTICED! In a crowd of mediocrity, be the shining star that stands out!
Understand How Fast Energy Moves with Pam Grout’s “Alby-Einstein” Experiment
In Pam Grout’s book, “E-Squared,” Pam writes about nine do-it-yourself energy experiments. Number 3 is called ‘The Alby Einstein Principle.” In the experiment, you take a wire hanger, cut it in half, take the cardboard tube, cut it in half, and basically make two “guns” with the hangar. Then, while holding one in each hand by the cardboard tubes, the wire swings around loosely. The next step is to focus on good feeling thoughts, then bad feeling thoughts, and watch how the wire part of the “guns” moves in and out with your thoughts.
The purpose…to show you how we move energy IMMEDIATELY based on our thoughts and our words! It’s so powerful! When we focus on good thoughts and words, the energy opens up wide and creates a powerful ripple effect of good energy out into the universe, which allows all of that goodness to come into our lives. But, when we focus our thoughts and words on bad energy, the space gets closed off immediately…blocking anything good from coming into our lives! It’s the coolest experiment in the book!
If you’d like to see the experiment in action, watch me demonstrating it live on my webinar.
Can you see how you might use this knowledge in your life? Can you visualize how powerful your thoughts and words are. This will help you catch yourself when you slip up now and then, which we all do. But, your recovery time will be so much quicker!
Take Notice of the Top Five Relationships in Your Life
If you want an indication of how you are “showing up” and the ripple effect and impression you are having on people, take a look at the five closest people around you and you’ll get a clear picture of it. Ask yourself the following questions:
- Do the people I surround myself with lift me up or bring me down?
- Do I really like and feel supported by the people I surround myself with?
- Am I spending time with people because I want to or because I feel obligated to?
- Is this the pond I want to be swimming in?
Answer those questions honestly. If you don’t like the answers you get, it’s time to look in the mirror and ask yourself some tough questions:
- What could I be doing differently to attract more of the people and things I want in my life?
- Where might I need to love myself more and boost my positive energy to be more of a magnetic attractor to what I truly want?
- What would it take for me to feel worthy of amazing relationships and to live an empowered, happier life being seen the way I want to be seen?
The purpose…If you want to live an empowered, intentional, happy life, in every area of your life, which is what I teach, then you need to be fiercely committed to NOT wasting a single moment of your life with people and things that bring you down! When we get dragged down, our ripple effect, and the impression we leave with others, gets dragged down, too. Life is too short to spend any time around others who don’t lift us up and elevate us. But, in order for that to happen, we must first look in the mirror about what we are attracting in. It’s tough love, but it’s so important to living an authentic life! It’s so worth it, and so are YOU!
Implement these steps into your life and let me know the results you are experiencing. When you make these small, subtle changes, week after week, they have a powerful, massive impact on your life, getting you closer and closer to getting everything you want! I love hearing your transformational stories!
LOVE IT!: MY LOVE OF LIFE HAS A POSITIVE RIPPLE EFFECT ON THE WORLD!
THANK IT!: I AM FOREVER GRATEFUL FOR MY POWERFUL FIRST IMPRESSIONS!
BRING IT!: I AM A MAGNET FOR ONLY POSITIVE PEOPLE AND EXPERIENCES IN MY LIFE!
Quote: “You must so impress others that they will feel that in associating with you they will get increase for themselves.” Wallace D. Wattles
What? Is it possible to piss off God? Well, actually…no. What that title really means is that when we get into a tailspin of negative, self-sabotage talk, we are speaking to ourselves in a way that GOD NEVER WOULD! Our thoughts, emotions and behavior with ourselves keeps us from getting what we truly want in life because we are EDGING OUT GOD. When we feel “icky” inside, that’s us being out of alignment with the way that God sees us.
The ONLY way God sees us is through the eyes of LOVE. That’s it. I could stop writing right now if you truly understood that and believed that. However, because of the way many of us were raised and our religious beliefs, we have come to believe that we need God’s approval for everything we do during this human experience. Here’s the deal…God loves us no matter what. We don’t need to ask for permission or forgiveness from God…it is a given. God would NEVER turn his back on us…EVER! God sees us as PERFECTION! God does not make mistakes and He did not make a mistake with you!
I may anger a lot of people with this blog, and I don’t mean to. But, I often wonder how so many people deny themselves happiness and choose guilt and shame because they are not living up to the way God would want them to? They consider themselves “sinners” and unworthy of experiencing happiness while here on Earth. They believe that happiness is meant for the afterlife. Seriously!?!? I want to say this as loudly as I can while typing:
GOD WANTS YOU TO BE HAPPY, TO BE JOYFUL, TO BE PLAYFUL, TO BE LOVING, TO BE ANYTHING YOU WANT TO BE! GOD IS NOT JUDGING YOU! GOD IS STANDING RIGHT NEXT TO YOU SUPPORTING YOU…ALWAYS!!! GOD HAS YOUR BACK! YES, SINNERS, YOURS TOO!
We all need to LOVE OURSELVES the way God loves us…unconditionally, with no expectations. The complete love is just there. Fully and forever. So, don’t look at yourself in the mirror and hate what you see. Don’t call yourself derogatory names. Don’t feel unworthy of having anything and everything you want. IF God could get mad, those are things that would anger him. Instead, God wants you to know that it’s heart-breaking for him to witness your lack of self-love, particularly with His beautiful creation…YOU!
So, how can we create awareness of our sabotaging behavior and find a way to increase our level of Self Love? Here are three ways:
There is No Separation
By now, you’ve heard me say often enough that everything is energy and there is no separation of anyone or anything. We are all connected. That means we are inextricably connected to God as well. Therefore, when you say or think a negative thought about yourself, you’re saying it about God, too. Would you call God “fat” or “stupid” or “ugly?” Would you look at God and focus on the areas you don’t like about Him? Would you tell God he’s not good enough? No! But, when you speak of yourself like that, that is exactly what you’re doing. So, the next time you look in the mirror, remember that and say to yourself following statements:
I AM A CREATION OF GOD AND GOD LOVES ME COMPLETELY.
GOD DOES NOT MAKE MISTAKES AND HE DID NOT MAKE ONE WITH ME.
I AM GOD AND HE IS ME.
Keep your focus and energy on what a REMARKABLE GIFT you are!!!
Stop Feeling Worried, Guilty, or Shameful
Three words that need to be removed from the dictionary and our vocabulary are worry, guilt and shame. I wish those emotions didn’t exist. They are such a waste of time! We beat ourselves up over so many silly things. Guess what…we are spiritual beings having a human experience, and while we are here on earth and experiencing “humanness,” we are going to make mistakes! Now, I’m not saying that rapists, murderers and the like should not be punished. However, it is my belief that those who do “bad” things aren’t really bad, they are exhibiting bad behavior. They are not their behavior. So, if there’s room for them in Heaven, or the afterlife, or whatever you believe, surely there’s room for you for your behavior in this lifetime!
Let go of the guilt and shame and FORGIVE YOURSELF for your past actions and behaviors! Don’t spend your life carrying around the guilt or shame of something that ALREADY happened. By forgiving yourself and moving on, that enables you to live in the present moment and LEARN from it. By keeping it alive, you cannot move on from it. God has, and so should you.
Breath, Think, Praise
In my book, I write about EEDs. Emotional Energy Diffusers. This 3 Step Process has allowed me to live in and come from a place of unconditional love in my life. I understand that how someone is responding (or reacting) to me has nothing to do with me. It has everything to do with the other person. On top of that, that person is doing the best they can from where they are at that given moment.
Therefore, who am I to judge them or react negatively to them? It is not my place to do so. It is my job and responsibility to LOVE MYSELF enough to know this, then look at them the way God does…with unconditional love. How is this showing up in your life? How can you do better at Self Love, which in turn creates unconditional love for everyone else? This is such a powerful concept and way to live!
You can find more information on how EEDs work and how to do the process in my book, “I Have Today: Find Your Passion, Purpose & Smile…Finally!”
Your life is meant to be full of love and joy and happiness, and also painful experiences, sadness and heartbreak. Every experience and emotion we have is a GIFT, and God is standing next to you every step of the way…THAT’S HOW LOVED YOU ARE! In God’s eyes, you cannot do wrong. So, be kinder to yourself, speak well of yourself, love yourself unconditionally, and watch how God shows up to give you even more of the things you want. He’s doing it all the time…but, now you know it, and you’ll be looking for His unconditional love in everyone and everything.
LOVE IT!: I LOVE FEELING GOD’S UNCONDITIONAL LOVE FOR ME!
THANK IT!: I AM SO GRATEFUL TO ALWAYS HAVE GOD BY MY SIDE!
BRING IT!: I AM GOD, AND GOD IS ME! WE ARE ONE IN THE UNIVERSE!
Quote: “The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.” – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross