What?  Is it possible to piss off God?  Well, actually…no.  What that title really means is that when we get into a tailspin of negative, self-sabotage talk, we are speaking to ourselves in a way that GOD NEVER WOULD!  Our thoughts, emotions and behavior with ourselves keeps us from getting what we truly want in life because we are EDGING OUT GOD.  When we feel “icky” inside, that’s us being out of alignment with the way that God sees us.

The ONLY way God sees us is through the eyes of LOVE.  That’s it.  I could stop writing right now if you truly understood that and believed that.  However, because of the way many of us were raised and our religious beliefs, we have come to believe that we need God’s approval for everything we do during this human experience.  Here’s the deal…God loves us no matter what.  We don’t need to ask for permission or forgiveness from God…it is a given.  God would NEVER turn his back on us…EVER!  God sees us as PERFECTION!  God does not make mistakes and He did not make a mistake with you! 

I may anger a lot of people with this blog, and I don’t mean to.  But, I often wonder how so many people deny themselves happiness and choose guilt and shame because they are not living up to the way God would want them to?  They consider themselves “sinners” and unworthy of experiencing happiness while here on Earth.  They believe that happiness is meant for the afterlife.  Seriously!?!?  I want to say this as loudly as I can while typing:

GOD WANTS YOU TO BE HAPPY, TO BE JOYFUL, TO BE PLAYFUL, TO BE LOVING, TO BE ANYTHING YOU WANT TO BE!  GOD IS NOT JUDGING YOU!  GOD IS STANDING RIGHT NEXT TO YOU SUPPORTING YOU…ALWAYS!!!  GOD HAS YOUR BACK!  YES, SINNERS, YOURS TOO!

We all need to LOVE OURSELVES the way God loves us…unconditionally, with no expectations.  The complete love is just there.  Fully and forever.  So, don’t look at yourself in the mirror and hate what you see.  Don’t call yourself derogatory names.  Don’t feel unworthy of having anything and everything you want.  IF God could get mad, those are things that would anger him.  Instead, God wants you to know that it’s heart-breaking for him to witness your lack of self-love, particularly with His beautiful creation…YOU!

So, how can we create awareness of our sabotaging behavior and find a way to increase our level of Self Love?  Here are three ways:

THERE IS NO SEPARATION

By now, you’ve heard me say often enough that everything is energy and there is no separation of anyone or anything.  We are all connected.  That means we are inextricably connected to God as well.  Therefore, when you say or think a negative thought about yourself, you’re saying it about God, too.  Would you call God “fat” or “stupid” or “ugly?”  Would you look at God and focus on the areas you don’t like about Him?  Would you tell God he’s not good enough?  No!  But, when you speak of yourself like that, that is exactly what you’re doing.  So, the next time you look in the mirror, remember that and say to yourself following statements:

I AM A CREATION OF GOD AND GOD LOVES ME COMPLETELY.

GOD DOES NOT MAKE MISTAKES AND HE DID NOT MAKE ONE WITH ME.

I AM GOD AND HE IS ME.

Keep your focus and energy on what a REMARKABLE GIFT you are!!!

STOP FEELING WORRIED, GUILTY, OR SHAMEFUL

Three words that need to be removed from the dictionary and our vocabulary are worry, guilt and shame.  I wish those emotions didn’t exist.  They are such a waste of time!  We beat ourselves up over so many silly things.  Guess what…we are spiritual beings having a human experience, and while we are here on earth and experiencing “humanness,” we are going to make mistakes!  Now, I’m not saying that rapists, murderers and the like should not be punished.  However, it is my belief that those who do “bad” things aren’t really bad, they are exhibiting bad behavior.  They are not their behavior.  So, if there’s room for them in Heaven, or the afterlife, or whatever you believe, surely there’s room for you for your behavior in this lifetime!

Let go of the guilt and shame and FORGIVE YOURSELF for your past actions and behaviors!  Don’t spend your life carrying around the guilt or shame of something that ALREADY happened.  By forgiving yourself and moving on, that enables you to live in the present moment and LEARN from it.  By keeping it alive, you cannot move on from it.  God has, and so should you.

BREATH, THINK, PRAISE

In my book, I write about EEDs.  Emotional Energy Diffusers.  This 3 Step Process has allowed me to live in and come from a place of unconditional love in my life.  I understand that how someone is responding (or reacting) to me has nothing to do with me.  It has everything to do with the other person.  On top of that, that person is doing the best they can from where they are at that given moment.

Therefore, who am I to judge them or react negatively to them?  It is not my place to do so.  It is my job and responsibility to LOVE MYSELF enough to know this, then look at them the way God does…with unconditional love.  How is this showing up in your life?  How can you do better at Self Love, which in turn creates unconditional love for everyone else?  This is such a powerful concept and way to live!

You can find more information on how EEDs work and how to do the process in my book, “I Have Today:  Find Your Passion, Purpose & Smile…Finally!” 

Your life is meant to be full of love and joy and happiness, and also painful experiences, sadness and heartbreak.  Every experience and emotion we have is a GIFT, and God is standing next to you every step of the way…THAT’S HOW LOVED YOU ARE!  In God’s eyes, you cannot do wrong.  So, be kinder to yourself, speak well of yourself, love yourself unconditionally, and watch how God shows up to give you even more of the things you want.  He’s doing it all the time…but, now you know it, and you’ll be looking for His unconditional love in everyone and everything.

LOVE IT!:  I LOVE FEELING GOD’S UNCONDITIONAL LOVE FOR ME!

THANK IT!:  I AM SO GRATEFUL TO ALWAYS HAVE GOD BY MY SIDE!

BRING IT!:   I AM GOD, AND GOD IS ME!  WE ARE ONE IN THE UNIVERSE!

Quote:  “The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.” –  Elisabeth Kubler-Ross