I just hosted a webinar on Suicide and Depression, and my journey out of my unhappy life to living an Empowered, Purposeful, Authentic Life…living on my terms, focused on my goals, dreams and desires. My journey back to myself and self-empowerment is what I teach at I HAVE TODAY.
What I learned in preparing for the webinar was how high the number of suicides were for “middle-aged” people. Ages 45-64 was the highest age group. I guess it makes sense…I’m in that age group, and I know EXACTLY how it feels. It turns out that this age group suffers the most because it seems that the depression dates all the way back to the teen years. There were emotional problems that were never addressed or healed from, and they’ve been carrying that pain around all these years. Piled on top of that are the changes that happen in mid-life…higher percentage of divorces, mid-life crises, health factors, becoming empty nesters, changes in career, caring for elderly family members…it’s a time of massive transitions. Those transitions can be devastating to those who don’t have the self-esteem, self-confidence, self-worth tools they need to overcome the obstacles they face. It becomes overwhelming, and they feel like there’s no way out. The pain can’t be ignored and it can’t be masked.
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In the meantime, I wanted to share 4 Steps to Helping YourSELF TODAY:
Focus on Your SPIRITUALITY
Implement a meditation practice into your life. Even if you start with only 5 minutes a day and work yourself up to 15-20 minutes a day, you will start to feel inner peace. I tell this to everyone…you MUST meditate. For me, it’s like breathing…I need it. You can use my Rainbow Breath Meditation practice or my Rainbow Ribbon of Healing practice. Either one is great for every level of meditation practice. If you don’t, please find one that works for you.
Focus on Your PHYSICALITY
You need to move your body! Get out and walk, go for a bike ride, go hiking, start dancing around the house…anything! Moving our bodies elevates our heart rate and increases our release of endorphins, which boosts our moods and creates a positive feeling in our bodies. Even if you don’t feel like it, force yourself to do it. Once you start doing it on a consistent basis, you’ll start to NEED to do it. It’s a good addiction!
Focus on Your CONNECTIVITY
Human interaction is critical when you are feeling depressed. You need to be with other people. Make sure you have someone to reach out to. If you don’t have a friend, sister, brother, co-worker, or anyone you can turn to, then look into joining meet up groups with similar interests of yours, go to different churches to seek community. Do whatever you need to do to build up a support system for you.
Focus on Your MENTALITY
Our mindsets are so powerful. Once we reach the age of 5 years old, our subconscious no longer has the capacity to not judge or have opinions. Once that happens, we are programmed by the events and circumstances in our lives. We have emotions and feelings associated with those events. Things like being told “we’re not good enough,” “we’ll never be rich,” “wealth is for other people,” and the like. Even innocent statements with the best intentions have hidden meanings to us because we naturally go into the mode of believing the worst about ourselves first because it’s so much easier for us to believe. Well, there’s a solution for this old paradigm programming. It’s one of the 12 Laws of the Universe. The Law of Polarity states that “we suppress and transform undesirable thoughts by concentrating on the opposite pole.” That means that we can CHANGE our association to any EVENT that occurred in our lives by thinking about and speaking about the event from the opposite perspective. Our subconscious cannot tell the difference between a lie and the truth. So, we can tell ourselves ANYTHING we want, and as long as we believe it, we will change the effects of the event…creating a new, better outcome. I know this might be confusing, so look up more on the power of this Law. It’s incredible. It’s what allows me to see the gift in EVERY single moment of my life. I know that when a negative event occurs, there’s an equally positive event that will occur. POWERFUL!
One last point I’d like to make is that nothing is “outside” of us. We all possess the power and skills to help ourselves. Yes, we need help and support, but we make the DECISION to reach out for help. We make the DECISION that we don’t want to suffer anymore and that we CAN do what it takes to create the life we WANT to live. It’s not weak to ask for help. In fact, it shows tremendous strength. We ALL need help.
If you or someone you know is suffering with depression and has suicidal thoughts, they need help and support right away! I can help. Reach out to me at Diane@IHaveToday.com for support and guidance. You need to know that you are not alone, that you are much bigger and better than what’s happening to you right now, that you are SO WORTHY of all the HAPPINESS your heart can handle, and on the opposite side of those feelings is EXTRAORDINARY BLISS…just waiting for you!
Quote: “Sometimes, reaching out and taking someone’s hand is the beginning of a journey. At other times, it is allowing another to take yours.” ― Vera Nazarian