Have you ever noticed that some people love to thrive on gossip? They are just not happy unless they are talking smack about somebody else. You know the kind of people I’m talking about. The ones that LOVE drama! They love having company in their misery. They don’t feel good unless they are saying something bad about someone else.
How many times have you been in a situation that didn’t feel good? You didn’t like the way the conversation was going, and you didn’t want to participate in it. But, you felt like it would have been rude to step away in the middle of it.
Here’s my two cents: Walk away!
Be the “cream” and rise to the top! This is a metaphor for getting to that sweet spot where you exist above all the chatter, the noise, the gossip and the innuendo that goes on all around us. That “noise” is what tends to keep us down.
In order to “operate” at your highest vibrational level, you’ve got to get away from this type of noise…at least for a little while. Once you learn the techniques I’m offering here, you’ll be MUCH better equipped to drown out that chatter and live in the “sweet spot” a whole lot more in your life.
The best advice I can give you is that it is WORTH this investment of time and energy because the results that you’ll start to experience in your life will blow you away!
- Richer, deeply connected, more loving relationships.
- A higher caliber of people surrounding you.
- A greater sense of self and massive amounts of confidence.
You’ll start to become very selective of whom you spend time with and where you spend it. You’ll no longer want to subject yourself to surroundings that drain your energy and literally waste your time. Plus, you’ll be living with much more self-awareness, more love of self, and a greater level of compassion and kindness. Doesn’t that sound wonderful? By the way, this is where most successful people reside. They don’t have the time or the energy to deal with petty, insecure, hurtful behavior. They spend their time working and looking for ways to make this world a better place.
To get there, you have to change some things that are currently happening in your life. Be open minded, and just go with it! I’m going to show you how to rise above it so that you can be more tuned in to you.
Step 1: Turn off your TV for 30 Days
Yes, that seems extreme, I know. But, give it a try. At the very least, do it for one week while you are integrating these steps. The quickest way to stop talking about people is to stop listening to other people talk about people! What a concept, right? I used to work in the TV industry, so I know that major television stations air over 50 hours of news per week. The first ten minutes are designed to shock you and to keep you hooked and viewing. All the bad news of the day comes first. The expression is “if it bleeds, it leads.” Taking in those images keeps your vibration down. How can you feel good inside watching all that bad news?
The drama series and reality shows are filled with back stabbing, gossiping, bad mouthing, fighting, murder, etc. Drama, drama, drama! Watching programming like this makes it very difficult to stay in positive vibrational energy. Our subconscious minds cannot tell the difference between the truth and a lie, so everything we take in is considered “real” to our subconscious.
Do I even need to talk about politics? Hello…THIS is the most damaging of all! There is NO WAY in H-E double hockey sticks we have a snow ball’s chance of EVER getting anywhere near world peace with our current state of politics. We can’t even Love Thy Neighbor! The ONLY way for it to improve is to NOT give it any attention and only focus on LOVE. Hate breeds hate, period. Your way vs. my way breeds divisiveness, period. Your best bet is to TURN IT OFF!
I know that, for me, I stopped watching TV on a regular basis several years ago. Now, if I catch myself binging on a Netflix series, I am “off.” I start thinking negative thoughts, the fears and doubts resurface, and I get into a state that keeps my vibration lower than I want it to be or it should be in order to attract into my life the things I want. It’s not good.
What’s the effect it’s having on you? It’s worth it to try and abstain from TV for 30 days. That’s all! Just 30 days! Imagine what you can do with all that time? Read more, play more, spend more time doing productive and fun activities, sleep more…did I say “play” more?
Step 2: Remove Yourself from As Many Commitments as You Can for the Next 30 Days
This may seem unreasonable, but PLEASE try it! Try not to attend any meetings, social gatherings, family obligations, or events that may potentially have a negative effect on you. Stay away from “clicky” women, gossip, insincere people, negative co-workers, your annoying sister, etc.
Sometimes, the best thing we can do for ourselves is to just be alone as much as possible. When we spend time alone, we can’t be influenced by the opinions or energy of others. We also allow ourselves the opportunity to “tune in” to ourselves…our inner voice and guidance. When we’re alone, we can “HEAR” ourselves so much better and clearer! It’s when we get quiet and still that who we are, what we want, and what our purpose is has the opportunity to reveal itself to us.
I realize that you probably have people living with you…your spouse, your kids, your parents, etc. However, do whatever you can to spend as much time alone as possible. Spend that time reading, writing, daydreaming, imagining, listening to uplifting music, anything that helps facilitate you lifting yourself to a higher vibration and get you to that “sweet” spot.
Step 3: Do Your Best Not to Judge Anyone
There’s an expression that says, “Perception is Projection” and when we point out behaviors we don’t like in other people, it is a mirror reflection of what we don’t like in ourselves. Therefore, when we judge others, we are judging ourselves.
Everyone is always doing the best they can from where they are. If someone is rude to you, there’s usually a reason. People are never rude. What’s happening is they are exhibiting rude behavior. The person is separate from their action. When you think about it like that, it makes is harder to judge people. When it’s harder to judge people, it’s easier not to talk about them in a negative way. By accepting people just as they are, it makes it so much easier to stay in a higher vibrational state. Trust me, you’ll be living a much happier life this way!
In Wayne Dyer’s book “10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace,” the 10th Secret is “Wisdom Is Avoiding All Thoughts That Weaken You.” Thoughts of judgement weaken us. He writes “Every single thought you have can be assessed in terms of whether it strengthens or weakens you.” He goes on to give an example of muscle testing and that if you speak a lie, your arm will move but when you speak the truth, you can hold your arm strong. He then quotes something from David R. Hawkins’ book “Power vs. Force” on the difference between Force, which takes energy and weakens us versus Power, which energizes since it makes no demands on us.
If you want to learn more about these two remarkable men who have helped me on my path and can perhaps help you too, click on the links to learn more.
Be the “cream.” Do your best to implement these practices, and journal your results. They will be incredible. You can’t imagine how different your life can be in 30 short days from today. When you look back at this day reading this, then fast forward to the end of the 30 days, you’ll be so GRATEFUL you invested the time and energy. As I always say, have FUN with it…because guess what…life is supposed to be FUN! Rise to YOUR HIGHEST LEVEL!
LOVE IT!: I LOVE BEING A VIBRATOR!
THANK IT!: I APPRECIATE MY ABILITY TO VIBRATE ON A HIGHER LEVEL!
BRING IT!: I POWERFULLY DISCERN THE CHATTER OUT OF MY LIFE!
Quote: “Let’s not be afraid to speak the common sense truth: you can’t have high standards without good discipline.” – William Hague